If I work in Germany as a nurse, could i move back to America and work as a nurse, or would I have to?
study it again, cause the words are different, that I studied in Germany?
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I'm pretty sure you'd be going back to school before you could work as a nurse in The States. Just my humble opinion.
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Hm.... You possibly would have to restudy the language if you want to work in America unless you can speak English fluidly.
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I do believe(I could be wrong) that they will let you as long as you take the certification test. I also think there's another test since you studied in a foreign country. I know that doctors can though it's hard process.
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Sunday, December 28, 2008
Sunday, December 14, 2008
Nursing aide/tech: What do they ask on the test
Nursing aide/tech: What do they ask on the test?
I'm a nurse from Germany, and i'm able to work as a nurse aide here in the states, so I applied for a job here as a nurse aide and invited me for a 50 question test. I think that i shouldn't have problems answering them, but still, does anyone one what they ask, or has onyone been through it and give me some hints or websites? Thank you in advance!
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as a nurse's aid, you just need to know the basics... the MOST complicated thing would be an EKG... the rest is all about patient care... shouldnt be too hard with your background... goodluck
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It won't be anything surprising or that intense. They want you to be able to provide ADL's for the patient in a safe manner. They will ask you to questions to make sure you understand if something is serious enough to call the nurse. Dont stress over this you will be fine. I hope you are able to get your nursing license eventually!
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I'm a nurse from Germany, and i'm able to work as a nurse aide here in the states, so I applied for a job here as a nurse aide and invited me for a 50 question test. I think that i shouldn't have problems answering them, but still, does anyone one what they ask, or has onyone been through it and give me some hints or websites? Thank you in advance!
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as a nurse's aid, you just need to know the basics... the MOST complicated thing would be an EKG... the rest is all about patient care... shouldnt be too hard with your background... goodluck
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It won't be anything surprising or that intense. They want you to be able to provide ADL's for the patient in a safe manner. They will ask you to questions to make sure you understand if something is serious enough to call the nurse. Dont stress over this you will be fine. I hope you are able to get your nursing license eventually!
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Sunday, December 7, 2008
I would love to work as a Nurse in Germany. What are the requirements? Please help me.
I would love to work as a Nurse in Germany. What are the requirements? Please help me.?
I am a Registered Nurse in the Philippines. I would love to work in Germany as a Nurse. What are the requirements? Do I need to take NCLEX, CGFNS, or IELTS? Do I need to have a German course? Are there trainings before working in the hospital? Please help me. I need the information badly. I appreciate your help. Thank you.
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to excel try www.virtuesproject.com pl write to the nursing board, berlin germany to get the conversion details. do u speak german? if not, pl start course. without german, u cant get a job u need nclex cgfns. u need accreditation. your qualifications must be recognised.
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I am a Registered Nurse in the Philippines. I would love to work in Germany as a Nurse. What are the requirements? Do I need to take NCLEX, CGFNS, or IELTS? Do I need to have a German course? Are there trainings before working in the hospital? Please help me. I need the information badly. I appreciate your help. Thank you.
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to excel try www.virtuesproject.com pl write to the nursing board, berlin germany to get the conversion details. do u speak german? if not, pl start course. without german, u cant get a job u need nclex cgfns. u need accreditation. your qualifications must be recognised.
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Monday, December 1, 2008
Is there any kind of equivalency test for a nursing cert. from Germany to become a US nursing cert
Is there any kind of equivalency test for a nursing cert. from Germany to become a US nursing cert.?
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The nursing certification test to be an RN is called the NCLEX. But you are subject to the state laws and rules when applying, so depending on where you are, the requirements might be different, you might have to complete an english proficiency test as well. But here's a guide to the NCLEX for foreign nationals: http://www.nurseimmigrationusa.com/Downloads/CoreFiles/nclex_revised_for_foreign_nurses.htm
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The nursing certification test to be an RN is called the NCLEX. But you are subject to the state laws and rules when applying, so depending on where you are, the requirements might be different, you might have to complete an english proficiency test as well. But here's a guide to the NCLEX for foreign nationals: http://www.nurseimmigrationusa.com/Downloads/CoreFiles/nclex_revised_for_foreign_nurses.htm
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Friday, November 28, 2008
admission in nursing in germany
admission in nursing in germany?
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I believe you can speak German perfectly, so I suggest you go to German Yahoo answers and ask them! Good luck!
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I believe you can speak German perfectly, so I suggest you go to German Yahoo answers and ask them! Good luck!
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Friday, November 14, 2008
Do you receive a student bursary in Germany
Do you receive a student bursary in Germany?
I was looking into a Nursing Ausbildung in Germany and a friend referred that students get a bursary of around €600 a month? I can't find any information on this so if anyone has any clues on that could you please let me know? And would this bursary apply to a non-German EU student? Thank you!
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This bursary called BAFÖG is only given to two categories of students in Germany: (1) those with German citizenship; (2) those with foreign citizenship who have graduated from a German high school (Gymnasium). It seems you do not fall in any of these categories... Dr Chris G Kiem Education Counsellor German Study Centre Cochin (DSZ) germanstudycentre@gmail.com http://chris-g-kiem.blogspot.com/
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I was looking into a Nursing Ausbildung in Germany and a friend referred that students get a bursary of around €600 a month? I can't find any information on this so if anyone has any clues on that could you please let me know? And would this bursary apply to a non-German EU student? Thank you!
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This bursary called BAFÖG is only given to two categories of students in Germany: (1) those with German citizenship; (2) those with foreign citizenship who have graduated from a German high school (Gymnasium). It seems you do not fall in any of these categories... Dr Chris G Kiem Education Counsellor German Study Centre Cochin (DSZ) germanstudycentre@gmail.com http://chris-g-kiem.blogspot.com/
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Friday, November 7, 2008
I want to become a nurse in Germany. Citizenship aside, how hard is foreign language medical terminology etc
I want to become a nurse in Germany. Citizenship aside, how hard is foreign language medical terminology etc?
Okay. I want to know how hard it would be for me to learn nursing in German. I speak German to an extent, and I will eventually live there. What is the job outlook there? How well are nurses paid there? I have my citizenship covered and everything, I am just looking to see how hard it would be. I'm willing to work as hard as I need to get what I want.
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I personally find citizenship to be the more difficult issue. Since you have covered you should have a great shot at being a nurse! You already speak some German which is helpful and as long as you are good at memorizing, you will be able to memorize the necessary info to be a nurse there. It would probably help if you already know American medical terminology and its definitions, instead of trying to learn a word in German and then learn what the word means. Good luck!
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Okay. I want to know how hard it would be for me to learn nursing in German. I speak German to an extent, and I will eventually live there. What is the job outlook there? How well are nurses paid there? I have my citizenship covered and everything, I am just looking to see how hard it would be. I'm willing to work as hard as I need to get what I want.
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I personally find citizenship to be the more difficult issue. Since you have covered you should have a great shot at being a nurse! You already speak some German which is helpful and as long as you are good at memorizing, you will be able to memorize the necessary info to be a nurse there. It would probably help if you already know American medical terminology and its definitions, instead of trying to learn a word in German and then learn what the word means. Good luck!
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Saturday, November 1, 2008
Is there anyway I can get a Nursing Degree in Germany and be able to practice in the US as well
Is there anyway I can get a Nursing Degree in Germany and be able to practice in the US as well?
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No, you must pass English test and then get your course evaluated, mostly you have to take a couple of more coures here, then take NCLEX.
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No, you must pass English test and then get your course evaluated, mostly you have to take a couple of more coures here, then take NCLEX.
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Tuesday, October 28, 2008
What are the qualifications in order to be a Nurse in Germany? I am an Asian Registered Nurse. Help
What are the qualifications in order to be a Nurse in Germany? I am an Asian Registered Nurse. Help!?
I wanna live in Germany together with my future German husband. I want to work as a Nurse there. What are the qualifications in order to be a nurse? Do I need to have a German course? For how many months? Is there a nurse training before working in the hospital? Are there examinations? Please help me. I really want to know.
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MY question to you is Why can't your future German husband get you these answers?All he has to do is to make a couple of calls to an institution or look up the internet to find out.Duhhh
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I wanna live in Germany together with my future German husband. I want to work as a Nurse there. What are the qualifications in order to be a nurse? Do I need to have a German course? For how many months? Is there a nurse training before working in the hospital? Are there examinations? Please help me. I really want to know.
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MY question to you is Why can't your future German husband get you these answers?All he has to do is to make a couple of calls to an institution or look up the internet to find out.Duhhh
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Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Nursing School in Germany? in the state of Rheinland-Pfalz
Nursing School in Germany? in the state of Rheinland-Pfalz?
ok this is the deal.. my husband and i are relocating to germany in june (airforce).. im interested in pursuing a degree in nursing and im currently a freshman in college... i really dont want to change my major since im very interested in being a nurse... and well i dont want to be seperated from my af husband again so im definetely moving to germany with him... we are going to be stationed in vogelweh, so any university near that would be nice.... thanx
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as much as I know, there is a campus on Ramstein Air Base. I've heard about people taking classes. Don't know which college and if they offer nursing. But I can tell you this. Public college in Germany is held in German. You won't do so well, if you don't speak the language perfectly.
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I don't know about the classes they offer on base, but nursing is nothing that you will be able to study at a German university, as in Germany, nurses become nurses through apprenticeships. Depending on what school diploma you have (Hauptschulabschluß, Realschulabschluß or Abitur), you will take a three year or a two year apprenticeship program. That is, people apply for an apprenticeship in a hospital, and if they get the job, in the first year they go to school (Berufsschule) on several days a week, and than in the last year they only go one day a week. I don't know which German school diploma a High School diploma equals to, most likely a Realschulabschluß/ mittlere Reife. Working and school language would be German, though.
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ok this is the deal.. my husband and i are relocating to germany in june (airforce).. im interested in pursuing a degree in nursing and im currently a freshman in college... i really dont want to change my major since im very interested in being a nurse... and well i dont want to be seperated from my af husband again so im definetely moving to germany with him... we are going to be stationed in vogelweh, so any university near that would be nice.... thanx
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as much as I know, there is a campus on Ramstein Air Base. I've heard about people taking classes. Don't know which college and if they offer nursing. But I can tell you this. Public college in Germany is held in German. You won't do so well, if you don't speak the language perfectly.
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I don't know about the classes they offer on base, but nursing is nothing that you will be able to study at a German university, as in Germany, nurses become nurses through apprenticeships. Depending on what school diploma you have (Hauptschulabschluß, Realschulabschluß or Abitur), you will take a three year or a two year apprenticeship program. That is, people apply for an apprenticeship in a hospital, and if they get the job, in the first year they go to school (Berufsschule) on several days a week, and than in the last year they only go one day a week. I don't know which German school diploma a High School diploma equals to, most likely a Realschulabschluß/ mittlere Reife. Working and school language would be German, though.
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Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Where can I find job vacancies for nurses in Germany
Where can I find job vacancies for nurses in Germany?
I would like to get websites or ads on which I can find information about vacancies and requirements for nurses and health care staffs in Germany.
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With the requirements
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I would like to get websites or ads on which I can find information about vacancies and requirements for nurses and health care staffs in Germany.
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With the requirements
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Wednesday, October 1, 2008
U.S. Nursing schools in Germany
U.S. Nursing schools in Germany??
My husband is in the army and we would love to go to Germany when he gets back from Afghanastan, the only problem is, I need to get into a four year university for nursing. I will be recieving my associates in pre-nursing really soon here, and want to continue on with my bachelors in nursing. I will not have a nursing degree as I have done no clinicals, it is not a nursing degree I will be recieveing only a pre nursing degree. I am wondering if there are any Four year colleges that are in Germany on an Army post that do nursing degrees?? How would I find out more information about this? I want to get a degree and be able to take the NCLEX and still work in the U.S. when we come back?? Thank you for any help or advice I mean it CAN NOT be an online course, I DO NOT have my RN's Licesne at all. Just pre nursing
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There are no US schools for nursing in Germany. Do you speak German? You might be able to find a way to enroll in a German University as a foreign student. But then you would have to jump through a bunch of hoops to get your RN in the states. I would suggest you postpone your move to Germany. Finish your education here and get your RN in the states. Then you might be able to work in Germany. But get licensed here.
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My husband is in the army and we would love to go to Germany when he gets back from Afghanastan, the only problem is, I need to get into a four year university for nursing. I will be recieving my associates in pre-nursing really soon here, and want to continue on with my bachelors in nursing. I will not have a nursing degree as I have done no clinicals, it is not a nursing degree I will be recieveing only a pre nursing degree. I am wondering if there are any Four year colleges that are in Germany on an Army post that do nursing degrees?? How would I find out more information about this? I want to get a degree and be able to take the NCLEX and still work in the U.S. when we come back?? Thank you for any help or advice I mean it CAN NOT be an online course, I DO NOT have my RN's Licesne at all. Just pre nursing
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There are no US schools for nursing in Germany. Do you speak German? You might be able to find a way to enroll in a German University as a foreign student. But then you would have to jump through a bunch of hoops to get your RN in the states. I would suggest you postpone your move to Germany. Finish your education here and get your RN in the states. Then you might be able to work in Germany. But get licensed here.
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Sunday, September 28, 2008
Online nursing school for when I move to Germany? Please help
Online nursing school for when I move to Germany? Please help!?
I'm moving to Germany in July, my husband is stationed in Vilseck with his unit. I really want to go to school for nursing, but all the campuses over there don't have a wide variety of nursing options. So what online schools can I enroll at without it mattering that i'm in Germany? i know nothing about international schooling or whatever else, but i really would like to know so i can get the ball rolling and be ready to start asap! thank you so much. <3
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is that dp a picture of you, because your really hot
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You cannot become a nurse online. Nursing involves hands on skills that must be leaned in person. You have to attend lectures, take part in skills labs and work in clinical settings to gain practical experience working with real patients.
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I'm moving to Germany in July, my husband is stationed in Vilseck with his unit. I really want to go to school for nursing, but all the campuses over there don't have a wide variety of nursing options. So what online schools can I enroll at without it mattering that i'm in Germany? i know nothing about international schooling or whatever else, but i really would like to know so i can get the ball rolling and be ready to start asap! thank you so much. <3
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is that dp a picture of you, because your really hot
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You cannot become a nurse online. Nursing involves hands on skills that must be leaned in person. You have to attend lectures, take part in skills labs and work in clinical settings to gain practical experience working with real patients.
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Sunday, September 14, 2008
where can one study medicine or nursing in english in germany
where can one study medicine or nursing in english in germany?
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University of Heidelberg
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University of Heidelberg
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Sunday, September 7, 2008
What is the average salary of a CRNA (nurse anesthetist) in Germany
What is the average salary of a CRNA (nurse anesthetist) in Germany?
I am thinking of studying nursing in germany, and if I did do this, I would want to go on and become a nurse anesthetist. However, I have heard that nurses have really crappy salaries in germany, so I was wondering what an ordinary registered nurse made, and then if possible what a nurse anesthetist made. Thanks!
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If money is your only concern ( and it shoud NOT be ),l then do not do it. American nurses are totally overpaid. That's why our system does not work. It's too expensive. nurse anesthetist ? There's no such thing. Nurses don't do that over there. Only a doctor can do it. It would be around 2 000 Euros a month.
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I am thinking of studying nursing in germany, and if I did do this, I would want to go on and become a nurse anesthetist. However, I have heard that nurses have really crappy salaries in germany, so I was wondering what an ordinary registered nurse made, and then if possible what a nurse anesthetist made. Thanks!
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If money is your only concern ( and it shoud NOT be ),l then do not do it. American nurses are totally overpaid. That's why our system does not work. It's too expensive. nurse anesthetist ? There's no such thing. Nurses don't do that over there. Only a doctor can do it. It would be around 2 000 Euros a month.
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Monday, September 1, 2008
Can someone with a Nursing certificate from Germany move to the US and keep the nursing status
Can someone with a Nursing certificate from Germany move to the US and keep the nursing status?
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I think you would have to take a test , to so show that you know the material you need to be a nurse.
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CGFNS, TOEFL(including TSE--test of spoken English), NCLEX-RN. You'll need to have your academic qualifications assessed to make sure they are up to par with US qualifications, hence CGFNS. YOu'll need to prove your competency of the English language via TOEFL and TSE. Afterwards, you will need to sit for the NCLEX-RN exam in any of the States, if you want to be recognized as a Registered Nurse. Once you are a RN, then it will be easy to get sponsors for a H1B or H1C work visa or sponsorship for permanent residency(green-card) because there is a huge shortage of RNs in the USA.
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I think you would have to take a test , to so show that you know the material you need to be a nurse.
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CGFNS, TOEFL(including TSE--test of spoken English), NCLEX-RN. You'll need to have your academic qualifications assessed to make sure they are up to par with US qualifications, hence CGFNS. YOu'll need to prove your competency of the English language via TOEFL and TSE. Afterwards, you will need to sit for the NCLEX-RN exam in any of the States, if you want to be recognized as a Registered Nurse. Once you are a RN, then it will be easy to get sponsors for a H1B or H1C work visa or sponsorship for permanent residency(green-card) because there is a huge shortage of RNs in the USA.
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Thursday, August 28, 2008
I have a diploma in nursing from Germany where can i use to work in Germany
I have a diploma in nursing from Germany where can i use to work in Germany?
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Any hospital or doctors office in Germany will recognize it.
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Any hospital or doctors office in Germany will recognize it.
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Thursday, August 14, 2008
Can I go to Germany and attend nursing school
Can I go to Germany and attend nursing school?
I am 18 years of age and I have a G.E.D. I am certified to drive a forklift and certified in CNA (certified nursing assistant) from Inland Empire Job Corps. My main goal is to become a RN (registered nurse). Is I possible for me to do this? Can you help me?
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Well if you are fluent in German (or at least enough to pass the proficiency test) then you can apply. You'll have to contact the schools as to the specific admissions requirements, they may require something more or you may be set to apply and come over. When you apply to study in another country you need to already have your passport as they need the numbers on your application to process you.
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I am 18 years of age and I have a G.E.D. I am certified to drive a forklift and certified in CNA (certified nursing assistant) from Inland Empire Job Corps. My main goal is to become a RN (registered nurse). Is I possible for me to do this? Can you help me?
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Well if you are fluent in German (or at least enough to pass the proficiency test) then you can apply. You'll have to contact the schools as to the specific admissions requirements, they may require something more or you may be set to apply and come over. When you apply to study in another country you need to already have your passport as they need the numbers on your application to process you.
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Thursday, August 7, 2008
i am a german nurse do i have to go here in usa ga again to school 3 years in germany nursing school cpmlet
i am a german nurse do i have to go here in usa ga again to school 3 years in germany nursing school cpmlet?
i finish nursing school in germany,i'm in the usa.do i have to go to school,again? after the crediental eveluation,do i have to take exam again,if yes what kind & what filed? how long do i have to learn,is there a time limitt?what count here in usa the german certificatonfor nurse in usa?
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I looked at something like this a couple years ago. A friend of mine from Guatemala was going to move to USA and he's a doctor. He would have had to take a competency test to be licensed in USA. I remember he would probably have had to study for 6 months (estimate) in order to have a good chance at passing the test. He stayed in Guatemala with a practice there.
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professional licencing [includes nurses] in US is run by the individual states. each state has their requirements avail on the internet. google will find the entry websites for you for any state you're interested in. the good news is that many US states have a shortage of nurses. That means there is a fair chance of getting a work visa -- the the US government's website for details. I would not be surprised to discover that a US employer has to apply for the visa on your behalf. There is an employer certification required saying that they're tried and failed to full their position with a US citizen. Which may mean that you need to find a US employer as the first step. [Hint: major hospitals in large cities are more likely to know how to navigate the paperwork to facilitate your work visa and licence. Hospitals in those cities with many German tourists and/or many German business travelers may need your German language skills which they'll likely be unable to find in the US labor market.] What kind of nursing do you wish to do? GL
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i finish nursing school in germany,i'm in the usa.do i have to go to school,again? after the crediental eveluation,do i have to take exam again,if yes what kind & what filed? how long do i have to learn,is there a time limitt?what count here in usa the german certificatonfor nurse in usa?
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I looked at something like this a couple years ago. A friend of mine from Guatemala was going to move to USA and he's a doctor. He would have had to take a competency test to be licensed in USA. I remember he would probably have had to study for 6 months (estimate) in order to have a good chance at passing the test. He stayed in Guatemala with a practice there.
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professional licencing [includes nurses] in US is run by the individual states. each state has their requirements avail on the internet. google will find the entry websites for you for any state you're interested in. the good news is that many US states have a shortage of nurses. That means there is a fair chance of getting a work visa -- the the US government's website for details. I would not be surprised to discover that a US employer has to apply for the visa on your behalf. There is an employer certification required saying that they're tried and failed to full their position with a US citizen. Which may mean that you need to find a US employer as the first step. [Hint: major hospitals in large cities are more likely to know how to navigate the paperwork to facilitate your work visa and licence. Hospitals in those cities with many German tourists and/or many German business travelers may need your German language skills which they'll likely be unable to find in the US labor market.] What kind of nursing do you wish to do? GL
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Friday, August 1, 2008
So, those of you who are against Big Government, what do you think of this
So, those of you who are against Big Government, what do you think of this?
I'm a registered Democrat, but that's because I live in what is essentially a one party state. I don't agree totally with either party. I notice the Republicans gripe a lot about "Big Government" but neglect some very big and expensive parts of the Government. I would like to see the following come to an end: 1) Subsidies given to manipulate the market. 2) The DEA. The War On Drugs is a joke. Put its administrative power under the FDA which is run by cooler heads. 3) The ATF. The Volstead Act was repealed a long time ago. They're just revenue agents who investigate arson. Let the FBI investigate arson. 4) Federal monies for local law enforcement. There are too many cops where I live, and they can't solve crimes. All they can do is arrest junkies and beat them. 5) Compulsory education and local school boards. Screw them. They get no results. 6) Laws against marijuana. It would save billions on incarcerating stoners, and marijuana could be taxed. 7) Airport security as it is. I don't want some fat lady named Tomeka barking orders at me and looking at my penis. 8) Border patrol. Fire them all. Recruit Russians to guard the border. Make sure none of them speak Spanish. The Soviets were the best at securing borders in a large country. 9) Faith based charities should go. I don't like the idea of funding Jesus freaks. 10) Default on all loans to China. We don't need their plastic crap. 11) Break the insurance monopolies. Make them subject to the Sherman Act. Fat, middle-aged women in cubicles will cry when they lose their jobs, but they're useless. 12) Allow Mexicans to come in the US for agricultural jobs only. Do not give them a path to citizenship. Treat them as guest workers or "metics" as the Athenians called such workers. 13) Create more doctors to drive down the price of health care. We have physician assistants and certified nurse practitioners doing high level medical diagnosis and treatment, and they simply aren't qualified. 14) Have a national test for lawyers, no degree required. Make it difficult to weed most of them out. Get rid of the American Bar Association, because it is a de facto part of the US Gov't, as it helps the President choose Supreme Court justices. Also, no one can become a federal judge without going to an ABA approved law school. 15) Withdraw troops from the Middle East, Okinawa, South Korea, Germany, etc. We're not fighting the Cold War anymore. Communism is dead, just another name for totalitarianism.
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1) Govt should be out of it. Tax system would need to be rewritten. 2) Agree 3) Agree 4) Disagree. Local law enforcement is a local issue. Fed has no business there. 5) Make schools compete for taxpayer dollars. Results driven, and not just testing results. 6) Agree 7) Security as it is is only a smoke screen. 8) Make the fed actually do their job and secure it. 9) Not really sure what charities have to do with Gov other than tax exemptions which should be removed by rewriting the whole thing (see 1) 10) Cut spending and repay loans. Don't be "that guy" and default. Lets be the great country we can be. 11) Open insurance across state boarders to increase competition. 12) Goes with securing the boarder 13) Not enough doctors isn't the problem. 14) State responsibility. Fed needs to stay out. 15) National security is still important. Having a foreign presence is in our best interest.
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I'm a registered Democrat, but that's because I live in what is essentially a one party state. I don't agree totally with either party. I notice the Republicans gripe a lot about "Big Government" but neglect some very big and expensive parts of the Government. I would like to see the following come to an end: 1) Subsidies given to manipulate the market. 2) The DEA. The War On Drugs is a joke. Put its administrative power under the FDA which is run by cooler heads. 3) The ATF. The Volstead Act was repealed a long time ago. They're just revenue agents who investigate arson. Let the FBI investigate arson. 4) Federal monies for local law enforcement. There are too many cops where I live, and they can't solve crimes. All they can do is arrest junkies and beat them. 5) Compulsory education and local school boards. Screw them. They get no results. 6) Laws against marijuana. It would save billions on incarcerating stoners, and marijuana could be taxed. 7) Airport security as it is. I don't want some fat lady named Tomeka barking orders at me and looking at my penis. 8) Border patrol. Fire them all. Recruit Russians to guard the border. Make sure none of them speak Spanish. The Soviets were the best at securing borders in a large country. 9) Faith based charities should go. I don't like the idea of funding Jesus freaks. 10) Default on all loans to China. We don't need their plastic crap. 11) Break the insurance monopolies. Make them subject to the Sherman Act. Fat, middle-aged women in cubicles will cry when they lose their jobs, but they're useless. 12) Allow Mexicans to come in the US for agricultural jobs only. Do not give them a path to citizenship. Treat them as guest workers or "metics" as the Athenians called such workers. 13) Create more doctors to drive down the price of health care. We have physician assistants and certified nurse practitioners doing high level medical diagnosis and treatment, and they simply aren't qualified. 14) Have a national test for lawyers, no degree required. Make it difficult to weed most of them out. Get rid of the American Bar Association, because it is a de facto part of the US Gov't, as it helps the President choose Supreme Court justices. Also, no one can become a federal judge without going to an ABA approved law school. 15) Withdraw troops from the Middle East, Okinawa, South Korea, Germany, etc. We're not fighting the Cold War anymore. Communism is dead, just another name for totalitarianism.
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1) Govt should be out of it. Tax system would need to be rewritten. 2) Agree 3) Agree 4) Disagree. Local law enforcement is a local issue. Fed has no business there. 5) Make schools compete for taxpayer dollars. Results driven, and not just testing results. 6) Agree 7) Security as it is is only a smoke screen. 8) Make the fed actually do their job and secure it. 9) Not really sure what charities have to do with Gov other than tax exemptions which should be removed by rewriting the whole thing (see 1) 10) Cut spending and repay loans. Don't be "that guy" and default. Lets be the great country we can be. 11) Open insurance across state boarders to increase competition. 12) Goes with securing the boarder 13) Not enough doctors isn't the problem. 14) State responsibility. Fed needs to stay out. 15) National security is still important. Having a foreign presence is in our best interest.
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Monday, July 28, 2008
Moving to Columbia soon
Moving to Columbia soon?
I have lived in Germany for about 4 years. So we finally got our orders I started freakin out!!! I just need help with everything! Where is a good nursing school, CNA training or a good place to get a job in health administration, I have my degree in that. Also a good daycare, good area to live, and horseback riding lessons, my 4 year old takes them over here. Also where is a good used car place. My car that isn't even paid off blew up so I can't really afford another payment. Anything else that anyone can tell me I would really appreciate!! Thanks in advance! Sorry I forgot that part... South Carolina
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To get advice, you need to tell us what state you are moving to because we have a lot of cities called Columbia in the U.S.... Sorry can't help you. I'm close to Columbia, MO.
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I have lived in Germany for about 4 years. So we finally got our orders I started freakin out!!! I just need help with everything! Where is a good nursing school, CNA training or a good place to get a job in health administration, I have my degree in that. Also a good daycare, good area to live, and horseback riding lessons, my 4 year old takes them over here. Also where is a good used car place. My car that isn't even paid off blew up so I can't really afford another payment. Anything else that anyone can tell me I would really appreciate!! Thanks in advance! Sorry I forgot that part... South Carolina
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To get advice, you need to tell us what state you are moving to because we have a lot of cities called Columbia in the U.S.... Sorry can't help you. I'm close to Columbia, MO.
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Monday, July 14, 2008
Army Wife, Doesnt know what to do
Army Wife, Doesnt know what to do.?
Well my husband and I knew I was going to be leaving Germany soon so i can get the rest of my degree and be a nurse by the time he got back from his deployment (he leaves June 09 for deployment) He does have Block leave to come home in May for 2 weeks but because im leaving a whole month before he comes home I feel Horrible.. (Hes at pre deployment trainging so i cant tell him the letter came today and i have to fly out March 31st (Which was around the time we expected) but I cant stop crying, I dont want to leave him here..and i know i will see him again before he deploys but I feel horrible...The only reason i was getting this degree is not only because i want to be a nurse but for us..So he doesnt have to re inlist and even if he does re inlist so we can come back to U.S. and live comfortably and settle down and start a family..We have been away from each other before *about 8months before we got maried.. and we are young but (going on 7 years together)..I feel so bad but if i dont get this degree , when he comes back from deployment , ill be in school and will not get that time with him. he is going to Iraq for a year and i have been told how selfish i am to leave him here for 4 or so weeks..But im not im doing this for us... But why do i feel so bad... He wants me to do this , but im scared i guess :(.... Yes he wants me to go for sure. I have delayed this school 2 times already before and i was fine with that. This school Starts in May 09 and ends April 2010 (2 months before his deployment. The next time i could go to this school is September 2009. That means when he comes back from deployment I wont be done with school for another two months and couldnt join him at the next duty station (He still has 3 years in) and i wanted to get my degree where when he gets done with the next 3 years, he himself can go to college instead of re enlisting for financial reasons with the economy like this
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I think by going you are being very mature and responsible. Yes, it will suck, but when he returns you will be able to spend time together then, and be financially stable. Let your husband know there are still people supporting and praying for him. God bless you.
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First of all, bless you and your husband through these difficult times. Whoever said you were being selfish is out of place for doing so. You, and your husband, know that you are doing this for the both of you. There's nothing selfish about thinking of the future. No one said military life was going to be easy; you should have known about this when your husband joined. Every marriage experiences sacrifices, and this one that you both will have to endure. Know this: as a soldier, he is trained to live without his family for durations of deployments. It will be rough for him, as it will be rough for you, but right now he's serving a great purpose; he's serving his country. Pray for him, love him, and let him know what you're feeling right now. Let him read this question and I'm sure he'll understand why you're doing what you're doing. Best of luck to you.
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Unsure, Are you certain your husband is being honest when he says he wants you to do this? I was in the military for 24.5 years and I never knew a spouse to say they didn't want their husband or wife to be there when they left or came back from deployment. I'd suggest you both go sit down with your husband's unit chaplain, or another counselor. There are three issues I see here: 1. How you are feeling - which you're feeling bad. 2. Whether or not you should go. 3. The fact you are doing this so your husband won't have to reenlist. [You didn't say he wanted you to become a nurse so he wouldn't have to reenlist]. In my own way of thinking, being together at highly stressful times, and supporting each-other emotionally during those times is far more important than living comfortably. [I've been married 32 years]. "Ranger"
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First off, who told you you were selfish? If you and your husband are agreed, then ignore whoever told you that. His/her opinion doesn't matter. Second, if you really want to spend every possible minute with your husband, could you delay starting school for another term, or even another year? You're not selfish, in fact you're being very mature, but if you just feel in your gut that this is the wrong decision, then maybe you could change your schedule. Hope it all works out for you.
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I would say make the decision that is best for your marriage. If you think your marriage would survive your school and his deployment situation then it is the best solution to go, especially for the long term benefit. The best part is he is supportive. I wouldn't say you are being selfish at all. In fact, you would be sacrificing what your heart wants right now for the improvement of your live's together overall. Hope this helps and best of luck.
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You might want to post this question in the family section since it is primarily a relationship issue. The part that is curious to me is "and i have been told how selfish i am to leave him here for 4 or so weeks". Who told you that? I'm guessing it wasn't your husband because all of the other parts of your situation seem to indicate that your husband is on board and in fact suspected that your departure date might occur when it has. If there are other people telling you that you are selfish but your husband is on board with your plans then who cares what they think. Another way to look at this is that you are "deploying". Lord knows that your husband, if he stays, in will deploy again and you will be separated. It appears that you guys have arranged for your "deployment" to happen at the same time as his. The only negative is that it wasn't a dead on perfect match for when you would be apart and that you will lose out on some 4 weeks of time together if you could have delayed your departure. I don't see any mention of any children in this and if you do have children in the future it would make it that much more difficult for you to complete your training. The only other option that I see is that you put your nursing training on hold until your family is stationed back in the states so that you don't have to "deploy" to complete your training. Good luck.
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Being scared is a very human emotion along with feeling bad when we think we're being selfish. By the way, you're definitely not being selfish by planning for a future for your family, just the opposite. A little seperation now and when he comes home after deployment you'll have so many more options for a better future together than you currently have. While you're in school the time he's away will go much faster and you'll be doing something that is not only worthwhile but will put your husband's mind at ease that you're safe, happy and very busy doing something important. My husband is currently in Afghanistan and has been there for four months and I keep myself busy doing whatever I can to make this a better home for him and taking classes. It also helps the days not seem so long and keeps my mind occupied with something other than worrying about him. I'm supposing that your fears and tears aren't so much from "you" leaving for school but for him being deployed and I totally understand it. I truly hope you go for your degree and I'll keep your husband in my prayers. Ps...I cried a river the two weeks before he left even though he has 28 years service...but he is definitely so much happier when he hears about my accomplishments, the funny things our pets do and it takes a huge burden off his shoulders knowing I'm doing just fine here!
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If this is something that you and him have spoken about I dont see the problem....you are both sacrificing for a better future...that is pretty much the life of a Soldier....sacrifice a little now so our children wont hopefully have to sacrifice alot later. Sure you want to be there before he deploys but if your schooling was the most important issue in your family unit before he left than sometimes its the decisions we make that we have to stand by. There are phones and it will have to be the same way when he is gone...phone calls and emails. He knows you love him and you know he loves you...now go and get your schooling done...it sounds like you and he have a plan and goals and are ambitious to achieve those things...so do them and know that you both will be the stronger if not the better for it because you have both sat down...discussed...planned...and now executed the decision to make not only you as individuals better for each other but the both of you as equals better for each other. Best of luck and Thank you for joining us in this time of need
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This is interesting because my wife just finished up her RN so that I could get out. My advice GO FOR IT. I am 8 months away from my ETS right now and the light at the end of the tunnel gets brighter every day. And the new GI bill will really help him go to college. GO FOR IT. GOOD LUCK!!!!
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Well my husband and I knew I was going to be leaving Germany soon so i can get the rest of my degree and be a nurse by the time he got back from his deployment (he leaves June 09 for deployment) He does have Block leave to come home in May for 2 weeks but because im leaving a whole month before he comes home I feel Horrible.. (Hes at pre deployment trainging so i cant tell him the letter came today and i have to fly out March 31st (Which was around the time we expected) but I cant stop crying, I dont want to leave him here..and i know i will see him again before he deploys but I feel horrible...The only reason i was getting this degree is not only because i want to be a nurse but for us..So he doesnt have to re inlist and even if he does re inlist so we can come back to U.S. and live comfortably and settle down and start a family..We have been away from each other before *about 8months before we got maried.. and we are young but (going on 7 years together)..I feel so bad but if i dont get this degree , when he comes back from deployment , ill be in school and will not get that time with him. he is going to Iraq for a year and i have been told how selfish i am to leave him here for 4 or so weeks..But im not im doing this for us... But why do i feel so bad... He wants me to do this , but im scared i guess :(.... Yes he wants me to go for sure. I have delayed this school 2 times already before and i was fine with that. This school Starts in May 09 and ends April 2010 (2 months before his deployment. The next time i could go to this school is September 2009. That means when he comes back from deployment I wont be done with school for another two months and couldnt join him at the next duty station (He still has 3 years in) and i wanted to get my degree where when he gets done with the next 3 years, he himself can go to college instead of re enlisting for financial reasons with the economy like this
Military - 9 Answers
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I think by going you are being very mature and responsible. Yes, it will suck, but when he returns you will be able to spend time together then, and be financially stable. Let your husband know there are still people supporting and praying for him. God bless you.
2 :
First of all, bless you and your husband through these difficult times. Whoever said you were being selfish is out of place for doing so. You, and your husband, know that you are doing this for the both of you. There's nothing selfish about thinking of the future. No one said military life was going to be easy; you should have known about this when your husband joined. Every marriage experiences sacrifices, and this one that you both will have to endure. Know this: as a soldier, he is trained to live without his family for durations of deployments. It will be rough for him, as it will be rough for you, but right now he's serving a great purpose; he's serving his country. Pray for him, love him, and let him know what you're feeling right now. Let him read this question and I'm sure he'll understand why you're doing what you're doing. Best of luck to you.
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Unsure, Are you certain your husband is being honest when he says he wants you to do this? I was in the military for 24.5 years and I never knew a spouse to say they didn't want their husband or wife to be there when they left or came back from deployment. I'd suggest you both go sit down with your husband's unit chaplain, or another counselor. There are three issues I see here: 1. How you are feeling - which you're feeling bad. 2. Whether or not you should go. 3. The fact you are doing this so your husband won't have to reenlist. [You didn't say he wanted you to become a nurse so he wouldn't have to reenlist]. In my own way of thinking, being together at highly stressful times, and supporting each-other emotionally during those times is far more important than living comfortably. [I've been married 32 years]. "Ranger"
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First off, who told you you were selfish? If you and your husband are agreed, then ignore whoever told you that. His/her opinion doesn't matter. Second, if you really want to spend every possible minute with your husband, could you delay starting school for another term, or even another year? You're not selfish, in fact you're being very mature, but if you just feel in your gut that this is the wrong decision, then maybe you could change your schedule. Hope it all works out for you.
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I would say make the decision that is best for your marriage. If you think your marriage would survive your school and his deployment situation then it is the best solution to go, especially for the long term benefit. The best part is he is supportive. I wouldn't say you are being selfish at all. In fact, you would be sacrificing what your heart wants right now for the improvement of your live's together overall. Hope this helps and best of luck.
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You might want to post this question in the family section since it is primarily a relationship issue. The part that is curious to me is "and i have been told how selfish i am to leave him here for 4 or so weeks". Who told you that? I'm guessing it wasn't your husband because all of the other parts of your situation seem to indicate that your husband is on board and in fact suspected that your departure date might occur when it has. If there are other people telling you that you are selfish but your husband is on board with your plans then who cares what they think. Another way to look at this is that you are "deploying". Lord knows that your husband, if he stays, in will deploy again and you will be separated. It appears that you guys have arranged for your "deployment" to happen at the same time as his. The only negative is that it wasn't a dead on perfect match for when you would be apart and that you will lose out on some 4 weeks of time together if you could have delayed your departure. I don't see any mention of any children in this and if you do have children in the future it would make it that much more difficult for you to complete your training. The only other option that I see is that you put your nursing training on hold until your family is stationed back in the states so that you don't have to "deploy" to complete your training. Good luck.
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Being scared is a very human emotion along with feeling bad when we think we're being selfish. By the way, you're definitely not being selfish by planning for a future for your family, just the opposite. A little seperation now and when he comes home after deployment you'll have so many more options for a better future together than you currently have. While you're in school the time he's away will go much faster and you'll be doing something that is not only worthwhile but will put your husband's mind at ease that you're safe, happy and very busy doing something important. My husband is currently in Afghanistan and has been there for four months and I keep myself busy doing whatever I can to make this a better home for him and taking classes. It also helps the days not seem so long and keeps my mind occupied with something other than worrying about him. I'm supposing that your fears and tears aren't so much from "you" leaving for school but for him being deployed and I totally understand it. I truly hope you go for your degree and I'll keep your husband in my prayers. Ps...I cried a river the two weeks before he left even though he has 28 years service...but he is definitely so much happier when he hears about my accomplishments, the funny things our pets do and it takes a huge burden off his shoulders knowing I'm doing just fine here!
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If this is something that you and him have spoken about I dont see the problem....you are both sacrificing for a better future...that is pretty much the life of a Soldier....sacrifice a little now so our children wont hopefully have to sacrifice alot later. Sure you want to be there before he deploys but if your schooling was the most important issue in your family unit before he left than sometimes its the decisions we make that we have to stand by. There are phones and it will have to be the same way when he is gone...phone calls and emails. He knows you love him and you know he loves you...now go and get your schooling done...it sounds like you and he have a plan and goals and are ambitious to achieve those things...so do them and know that you both will be the stronger if not the better for it because you have both sat down...discussed...planned...and now executed the decision to make not only you as individuals better for each other but the both of you as equals better for each other. Best of luck and Thank you for joining us in this time of need
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This is interesting because my wife just finished up her RN so that I could get out. My advice GO FOR IT. I am 8 months away from my ETS right now and the light at the end of the tunnel gets brighter every day. And the new GI bill will really help him go to college. GO FOR IT. GOOD LUCK!!!!
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Monday, July 7, 2008
Military,Overseas and confused for school
Military,Overseas and confused for school.?
Well long story short...I love my husband with my life we have been married a year and dating 6 years.. We are stationed in Germany, I was accepted into a nursing school for 12months (it lines up perfect with his deployment, so we arent apart by choice...However In order for me to go home and EROD i have to leave him in March an he doesnt deploy till June BUT he will be home in MAY where i will be in TENNESSEE for Block Leave...Everyone is telling me im selfish, he could die..and i know he could but he is going to a pretty safe area that has calmed down in Iraq (no excuse) but Im doing this degree for us , so he can go to college when his time is up and we do not financially strugle...How does that make me selfish?? I feel like im doing the right thing and so does he..I feel horrible for him having to be here 7 weeks alone but this is our future and i cant go to this school again untill Sept 09 (that means i will be away from him for 2 months after his deployment and he goes to another duty station..Am i doing the right thing?? Thanks.. We are young lol 20..High School Sweethearts all the way to middle school..Which is why i think its sooo important to get my degree right now while i have a chance to not be away from him so long. However Trust me two months is nothin to whoever left that comment..We have already spent a year apart before we got married and of course here and there tdys (for weeks to months) just needed second oppions that I wasnt do the wrong thing and i feel really good about what im doing and know we will be fine..I just didnt feel like i was being selfish at all because the degree is for both of us :) Thanks all who left oppions! I really Appreciate
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You are doing the right thing. I told every one of my guys when I was in to PLAN FOR SEPARATION the moment you enlist. If you do that you can't go wrong. If you decided to re-up then you're sitting with a bachelor's degree and can choose an officer program possibly. So, you should do the same thing. Plan ahead for the separation. If you can go ahead and get a degree then it would be good for both of you.
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yes you are doing the right thing. YOU need to do what is best for YOUR career too.
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You must be young and in love if you are having this much heartbreak over less than two month's separation. Separation is a normal part of military life. Ignore the "everyone" calling you selfish - their comments say more about their issues than yours.
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These people who think war means they will die, I knew of three soldiers who came home and died so just because they go to war does nto mean they will go over there and die, my husband almiost died two times, but God was with him, I mean miracles do happen over there, you just don;t hear about them and yes soldiers die, but the three I knew came home after deployment, and two died in a car wreck and one was gang related.
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This decision is between the two of you and no one else. It sounds like you have thought this through very carefully and you are doing the best thing for your future together. Unfortunately, you are probably going to feel small regrets whichever choice you make. That doesn't mean that it was a wrong decision, just that some decisions are hard. I agree that it seems like other people are projecting their own issues on you. Good luck - you sound like a smart girl!
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Well long story short...I love my husband with my life we have been married a year and dating 6 years.. We are stationed in Germany, I was accepted into a nursing school for 12months (it lines up perfect with his deployment, so we arent apart by choice...However In order for me to go home and EROD i have to leave him in March an he doesnt deploy till June BUT he will be home in MAY where i will be in TENNESSEE for Block Leave...Everyone is telling me im selfish, he could die..and i know he could but he is going to a pretty safe area that has calmed down in Iraq (no excuse) but Im doing this degree for us , so he can go to college when his time is up and we do not financially strugle...How does that make me selfish?? I feel like im doing the right thing and so does he..I feel horrible for him having to be here 7 weeks alone but this is our future and i cant go to this school again untill Sept 09 (that means i will be away from him for 2 months after his deployment and he goes to another duty station..Am i doing the right thing?? Thanks.. We are young lol 20..High School Sweethearts all the way to middle school..Which is why i think its sooo important to get my degree right now while i have a chance to not be away from him so long. However Trust me two months is nothin to whoever left that comment..We have already spent a year apart before we got married and of course here and there tdys (for weeks to months) just needed second oppions that I wasnt do the wrong thing and i feel really good about what im doing and know we will be fine..I just didnt feel like i was being selfish at all because the degree is for both of us :) Thanks all who left oppions! I really Appreciate
Military - 5 Answers
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You are doing the right thing. I told every one of my guys when I was in to PLAN FOR SEPARATION the moment you enlist. If you do that you can't go wrong. If you decided to re-up then you're sitting with a bachelor's degree and can choose an officer program possibly. So, you should do the same thing. Plan ahead for the separation. If you can go ahead and get a degree then it would be good for both of you.
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yes you are doing the right thing. YOU need to do what is best for YOUR career too.
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You must be young and in love if you are having this much heartbreak over less than two month's separation. Separation is a normal part of military life. Ignore the "everyone" calling you selfish - their comments say more about their issues than yours.
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These people who think war means they will die, I knew of three soldiers who came home and died so just because they go to war does nto mean they will go over there and die, my husband almiost died two times, but God was with him, I mean miracles do happen over there, you just don;t hear about them and yes soldiers die, but the three I knew came home after deployment, and two died in a car wreck and one was gang related.
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This decision is between the two of you and no one else. It sounds like you have thought this through very carefully and you are doing the best thing for your future together. Unfortunately, you are probably going to feel small regrets whichever choice you make. That doesn't mean that it was a wrong decision, just that some decisions are hard. I agree that it seems like other people are projecting their own issues on you. Good luck - you sound like a smart girl!
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Tuesday, July 1, 2008
How can get Newzeland PR
How can get Newzeland PR?
Hi I am Shyam from Nepal. I really want to get PR from Newzeland but how come it be possible? I have more than 10 years working experience in different health organizations and presently, working in UNICEF, Nepal. Regarding qualification, I have completed Masters degree in International health from Germany, Sweden and Denmark along with graduation in Nursing from Nepal. Besides this, I have also completed Masters Degree in Health Education, Diploma in Public Health and Tropical Medicine. If have any possibility, please share me and guide me how can I get PR from Newzeland ? Your suggestion and guidance is highly appriciative. Shyam
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Scrub up on up your English for a start...you will need to be fluent...
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Or at least learn to spell the name of it. It's two words, New Zealand.
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Hi I am Shyam from Nepal. I really want to get PR from Newzeland but how come it be possible? I have more than 10 years working experience in different health organizations and presently, working in UNICEF, Nepal. Regarding qualification, I have completed Masters degree in International health from Germany, Sweden and Denmark along with graduation in Nursing from Nepal. Besides this, I have also completed Masters Degree in Health Education, Diploma in Public Health and Tropical Medicine. If have any possibility, please share me and guide me how can I get PR from Newzeland ? Your suggestion and guidance is highly appriciative. Shyam
Immigration - 2 Answers
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1 :
Scrub up on up your English for a start...you will need to be fluent...
2 :
Or at least learn to spell the name of it. It's two words, New Zealand.
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Saturday, June 28, 2008
Turkish youth in Germany
Turkish youth in Germany?
Lately, I have read many horrible (and racist) things about the Turkish community in Germany. That the Turks were in gangs, harassing people on subways and generally have lots of problems. I don't know if this is completely true or not.. all I know is that it is semi-true from the online sound of things. I just want to establish that in Australia, Turks are doing very well with the majority of students going to university, getting degrees and leading positive, fulfilling and healthy lives. My uncle is a lawyer, my aunt is a nurse, my mother an IT consultant, my father a restranteur, my grandfather an engineer and I plan on studying a BA in Journalism in the coming months. What is your view on Turkish-German youth and have you had any good/bad experiences with them? hey, I'm not saying Turks are perfect, all I'm saying is that I hear Turks feel alienated over in Germany/Netherlands/Belgium, but over here we have intergrated well into Australian society. Many of my cousins have Aussie wives. I'm just very curious as to what's happening over there, I've heard many stories
Other - Germany - 10 Answers
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1 :
My only direct experience with young Turkish people in Germany has been the many friendly, helpful employees and owners of businesses. In particular, there are many Döner-Kebap restaurants and stands run by young Turkish men who are friendly, non-threatening, and pleasant. As an American who speaks little to no German, I find these Turkish shopkeepers to be far more friendly and accommodating than their German counterparts. Usually there are a couple of younger Turkish boys hanging out or working at the Döner restaurants, who also strike me as friendly and nonthreatening. I feel that's generally the case when I see all varieties of Southeastern European immigrants in Germany - driving taxis, riding the subway, and wherever I encounter them around town. I think it's very similar to the situation with Latino immigrants in the United States: Some people feel uncomfortable when they encounter foreigners in their hometown, and any time they see a large group of immigrants their minds leap to ideas of gangs, crime, violence, etc. even when it couldn't be further from the truth. I see Turkish immigrants to Germany, and Mexican immigrants to the US, as people who have taken a great leap of faith to travel to a new country in search of employment and opportunity to create a better life for themselves and their families.
2 :
There is a VERY large Turkish population in Germany. It can be understandable that there are some who may behave as you say. Also, Turkish men can be very misunderstood. They all think of themselves as very attractive, and if a woman gives them any kind of attention they think this means you want their attention -- this could be perceived as harassment to others. There is a big cultural difference, and even though there are many Turks who are acclimated to their adoptive country, there will always be a slight divide and misunderstanding. Not all Turks are bad. In fact, my boyfriend is Turkish, and I find they generally treat people (women in particular) very well.
3 :
Actually what you have heard is true to a huge % of the youth.(at least in bigger cities) That isnt racist. Come to germany and go into a club..after you go out, you should get a cut near the throat and almost die(like my friend) then you think differently The funny thing: for absolute nothing..you dont need to have done anything. Actually i only know about the bigger cities..dont know about small towns But in bigger cities they normaly build ´´gangs´´ with their family and other sometimes they come with 20 men then... If you look strange at them normally then comes an invitation for a nice beating(only from the turks who feel strong alone too..not many) But normally they dont harass people in subways In general they have alots of trouble. Is it not wanting to work..not wanting to go to school or criminal activities or the things above. exceptions proof the rule Im always annoyed when a foreigner tries to say something about it and we are racist against them or so without knowing anything
4 :
i live in a small town in germany and the turks here are just like everybody else oO there are really nice people and then there are some idiots.. but it's the same with the germans.. ^^ soooo basically there are idiots in every culture, it's just that the turks stand out in germany because they often don't speak german very well. these "big-city-problems" as described in an answer above basically don't exist here in the small town =)
5 :
Well, the turkish "youth" in their middle to late 20s say it was much easier for them to integrate into German society, since there were not that many Turkish people in Germany, and they needed to interact with their German classmates and neighbors, so of course they learned the language better, did better in school, went further in school, got apprenticeships more easily (it's unfair to only put that down to language skills, though, because economy was different 10 years back, too). There were not as many Muslim prayer rooms or Moshes (Spelling??? :( Sorry.), no Turkish sport clubs, no "only women" opening hours at pools... they needed to live in a country where they needed to integrate into the existing society because there simply were not enough of them to build up the structures they were used to having. Now there are many more Muslims, not necessarily just Turkish people, in Germany, and they live in "ghettos", meaning they live in parts of the town, mostly, where there is assisted housing from the state. THis, though unwanted by the state, supports them in clinging together as a group (they are in a foreign country that dos not understand their customs and traditions, nor respect them sometimes, and many of them do not speak the language (well). Plus, the structures here often support the more fundamentalist in their believe (because the morals from the 50's and 60's are what the old men who often sit at the head of the community know and perceive as "normal", even though in their home country, those morals are outdated now), and that eases the way for fathers to dominate their families in a "traditional" way. Often the teenage sons are lambs at home, honoring their elders, being nice as pie to everyone, and than when they are out in town with their fiends, they "flip", because they need to have some sort of feeling of control over something. Harassing people, especially people who obviously don't have anything to do with their community, in such an anonymous surrounding as a subway (I guess they are not thinking of the cameras) is an easy outlet for them. There was one incident this year where three Turkish kids severely beat up an old German man in the subway because he reminded them that smoking was forbidden. A typical "I'm the old, law-abiding citizen, and you are just three youths not knowing how to accept boundaries or behave correctly". Had he been a member of the Turkish community, chances are they would have said sorry and extinguished their smokes. He wasn't, though. I'm not saying the old guy made himself a victim, but with the Turkish kids, there are mostly two sides of the medal. Which also makes it so difficult for the two cultures. Often social workers are simply told: "You don't understand. This is our culture, these are our morals, you can't come in and destroy our morals just because we live in this country." To which one becomes sometimes tempted to reply: "You can't come in and destroy our country just because you want to live with your morals!" (if you want to express it that drastically and directly). And I'm not saying Turks are villains. I have Turkish friends who went to school with me, and they are nice, generous, warm and friendly people, open and welcoming, who will explain their customs when I ask, and, though they are somewhat fundamentalist, will listen to your side of the story, too, and discuss. Both of them (she and her brother) are studying and doing well, don't live in assisted housing, have jobs and own a house/ think of building one. The daughter is married (to a Turkish guy) and has two kids (while studying), and while she is independent and modern, she loves the fact that the structures and traditions are there to support her (kids are with Grandma in "the ghetto" when Mom goes to school). At home, she speaks Turkish with her kids. One could go on talking about the real hate crimes and "honor murders" going on in Germany, but: Yes, they happen, no question about that. Do they happen often: No. I do not believe it is a common thing, I think it is a horrible way of thinking of some horrible people. There are horrible people in all parts of the world, of every religion, in every country, in all parts of society.
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i am english and have lived in germany for 16yrs i live in a large city, and we have a lot of turkish people here you are right, there are a lot of gangs of youths roaming the streets, causing trouble etc etc and there are gangs of turkish youths doing this, but not just turkish, we have so many different nationalities here
7 :
Hey Kaile, people like you are not the problem --- the problem are guys not going to school, robbing, dealing etc. German government spend a lot of money to integrate foreigners to german society. But turks have in a lot of german cities their own townships and that are no go areas for the others. (I must say, that is not true for Hamburg, but if you will have problems with a young guy --- it wil be not a russian, not an african, not an asian --- it will be a turk. The real problem --- german jurisdiction is worse. You see there was a young guy --- he made 63 robberies up to the age of 14. There was a big blablabla and they send him to Turkey. At that time crime of young foreigners decreased by 18%. But some times later they let him return and one year later they send him one and a half year to prison and that is a lot for a youngster in Germany. If you are a friendly normal citizen and you have problems with another one --- I bet the other one is a Turk --- that is the problem. It is not the problem --- that there are a lot of honest Turk people ---- but who likes always be compared with criminals ---- so very much honest turks flee off the country ---- that is the other problem. In the last 20 years I had 2 problems it were problems with turks. But I also have found some turk friends.
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I lived in the infamous Kreuzberg district of Berlin, Germany's capital, and must say I never felt endangerd by the Turkish Youth Gangs (well, that's exaggerated in itself: They're not much more than we were when we were young), and I'd still feel safe there. One of my best friends (Turkish, by birth, German, by nationality) keeps joking about them in his Turkish language, which I don't perfectly understand. As I lived with Turkish Youth in Berlin, I'd stick with Douglas Adams' description in the "Hitchhiker's Guide": "Mostly Harmless." That doesn't mean that they're always harmless. I'm usually harmless, too, but can arrange for a beating when racist people (what we call "neo-Nazis") come along. The Turks I know feel well integrated into our society, and those who don't should think it over. And "Islam", as I learned, is not at all a uniform religion; it has as many facets and variations as Christianity. I talked a lot with Turkish people about their religion, and it made me read the Q'ran, and I found that it is a book among others, like the Bible, or the Bhagavad-Gita. There's some wisdom in it, but in "wisdom", there's "wise", so you have to treat it wisely.
9 :
as everywhere there's some sort of alienation. minorities have the tendency to become conservative when it comes to their values. so there's both, integrated turks (insert any other minority) and the frustrated ones who seek violence (gangs, fundamentalists). though of course that goes for the frustrated germans as well (gangs, hooligans, nazis...).
10 :
There are many good answers here already. One fact still missing - the change of society and the increase of poverty. This causes people who would normally be in jobs to sit on the streets and look for excitement in their dull surrounding. This stands for some Turkish juveniles as good as for some Germans or other nations' kids. The German ones shout, how bad the Turkish, Italian, Morocco (name the countries) are. The louder they shout and write in outlets like this, the more they are heard. Still, they are not many - just noisy. And they are taken much too serious. Nevertheless, after 9/11 mistrust developed towards people with muslim religion, sad to say. This resulted into the fact, that they, of course, moved together more closely and kept to themselves. Now, if a group keeps to themselves - more mistrust develops. Plus, the old conservative rules come out stronger - i.e. Turkish girls must marry Turkish boys, etc. This again finds even less understanding in German "simple framed" heads.... All together, in the normal German life you don't really find problems. Even the little wannabe Nazi buys his "Döner" at the Turkish shop not thinking about, who is serving him. :-)
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Lately, I have read many horrible (and racist) things about the Turkish community in Germany. That the Turks were in gangs, harassing people on subways and generally have lots of problems. I don't know if this is completely true or not.. all I know is that it is semi-true from the online sound of things. I just want to establish that in Australia, Turks are doing very well with the majority of students going to university, getting degrees and leading positive, fulfilling and healthy lives. My uncle is a lawyer, my aunt is a nurse, my mother an IT consultant, my father a restranteur, my grandfather an engineer and I plan on studying a BA in Journalism in the coming months. What is your view on Turkish-German youth and have you had any good/bad experiences with them? hey, I'm not saying Turks are perfect, all I'm saying is that I hear Turks feel alienated over in Germany/Netherlands/Belgium, but over here we have intergrated well into Australian society. Many of my cousins have Aussie wives. I'm just very curious as to what's happening over there, I've heard many stories
Other - Germany - 10 Answers
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1 :
My only direct experience with young Turkish people in Germany has been the many friendly, helpful employees and owners of businesses. In particular, there are many Döner-Kebap restaurants and stands run by young Turkish men who are friendly, non-threatening, and pleasant. As an American who speaks little to no German, I find these Turkish shopkeepers to be far more friendly and accommodating than their German counterparts. Usually there are a couple of younger Turkish boys hanging out or working at the Döner restaurants, who also strike me as friendly and nonthreatening. I feel that's generally the case when I see all varieties of Southeastern European immigrants in Germany - driving taxis, riding the subway, and wherever I encounter them around town. I think it's very similar to the situation with Latino immigrants in the United States: Some people feel uncomfortable when they encounter foreigners in their hometown, and any time they see a large group of immigrants their minds leap to ideas of gangs, crime, violence, etc. even when it couldn't be further from the truth. I see Turkish immigrants to Germany, and Mexican immigrants to the US, as people who have taken a great leap of faith to travel to a new country in search of employment and opportunity to create a better life for themselves and their families.
2 :
There is a VERY large Turkish population in Germany. It can be understandable that there are some who may behave as you say. Also, Turkish men can be very misunderstood. They all think of themselves as very attractive, and if a woman gives them any kind of attention they think this means you want their attention -- this could be perceived as harassment to others. There is a big cultural difference, and even though there are many Turks who are acclimated to their adoptive country, there will always be a slight divide and misunderstanding. Not all Turks are bad. In fact, my boyfriend is Turkish, and I find they generally treat people (women in particular) very well.
3 :
Actually what you have heard is true to a huge % of the youth.(at least in bigger cities) That isnt racist. Come to germany and go into a club..after you go out, you should get a cut near the throat and almost die(like my friend) then you think differently The funny thing: for absolute nothing..you dont need to have done anything. Actually i only know about the bigger cities..dont know about small towns But in bigger cities they normaly build ´´gangs´´ with their family and other sometimes they come with 20 men then... If you look strange at them normally then comes an invitation for a nice beating(only from the turks who feel strong alone too..not many) But normally they dont harass people in subways In general they have alots of trouble. Is it not wanting to work..not wanting to go to school or criminal activities or the things above. exceptions proof the rule Im always annoyed when a foreigner tries to say something about it and we are racist against them or so without knowing anything
4 :
i live in a small town in germany and the turks here are just like everybody else oO there are really nice people and then there are some idiots.. but it's the same with the germans.. ^^ soooo basically there are idiots in every culture, it's just that the turks stand out in germany because they often don't speak german very well. these "big-city-problems" as described in an answer above basically don't exist here in the small town =)
5 :
Well, the turkish "youth" in their middle to late 20s say it was much easier for them to integrate into German society, since there were not that many Turkish people in Germany, and they needed to interact with their German classmates and neighbors, so of course they learned the language better, did better in school, went further in school, got apprenticeships more easily (it's unfair to only put that down to language skills, though, because economy was different 10 years back, too). There were not as many Muslim prayer rooms or Moshes (Spelling??? :( Sorry.), no Turkish sport clubs, no "only women" opening hours at pools... they needed to live in a country where they needed to integrate into the existing society because there simply were not enough of them to build up the structures they were used to having. Now there are many more Muslims, not necessarily just Turkish people, in Germany, and they live in "ghettos", meaning they live in parts of the town, mostly, where there is assisted housing from the state. THis, though unwanted by the state, supports them in clinging together as a group (they are in a foreign country that dos not understand their customs and traditions, nor respect them sometimes, and many of them do not speak the language (well). Plus, the structures here often support the more fundamentalist in their believe (because the morals from the 50's and 60's are what the old men who often sit at the head of the community know and perceive as "normal", even though in their home country, those morals are outdated now), and that eases the way for fathers to dominate their families in a "traditional" way. Often the teenage sons are lambs at home, honoring their elders, being nice as pie to everyone, and than when they are out in town with their fiends, they "flip", because they need to have some sort of feeling of control over something. Harassing people, especially people who obviously don't have anything to do with their community, in such an anonymous surrounding as a subway (I guess they are not thinking of the cameras) is an easy outlet for them. There was one incident this year where three Turkish kids severely beat up an old German man in the subway because he reminded them that smoking was forbidden. A typical "I'm the old, law-abiding citizen, and you are just three youths not knowing how to accept boundaries or behave correctly". Had he been a member of the Turkish community, chances are they would have said sorry and extinguished their smokes. He wasn't, though. I'm not saying the old guy made himself a victim, but with the Turkish kids, there are mostly two sides of the medal. Which also makes it so difficult for the two cultures. Often social workers are simply told: "You don't understand. This is our culture, these are our morals, you can't come in and destroy our morals just because we live in this country." To which one becomes sometimes tempted to reply: "You can't come in and destroy our country just because you want to live with your morals!" (if you want to express it that drastically and directly). And I'm not saying Turks are villains. I have Turkish friends who went to school with me, and they are nice, generous, warm and friendly people, open and welcoming, who will explain their customs when I ask, and, though they are somewhat fundamentalist, will listen to your side of the story, too, and discuss. Both of them (she and her brother) are studying and doing well, don't live in assisted housing, have jobs and own a house/ think of building one. The daughter is married (to a Turkish guy) and has two kids (while studying), and while she is independent and modern, she loves the fact that the structures and traditions are there to support her (kids are with Grandma in "the ghetto" when Mom goes to school). At home, she speaks Turkish with her kids. One could go on talking about the real hate crimes and "honor murders" going on in Germany, but: Yes, they happen, no question about that. Do they happen often: No. I do not believe it is a common thing, I think it is a horrible way of thinking of some horrible people. There are horrible people in all parts of the world, of every religion, in every country, in all parts of society.
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i am english and have lived in germany for 16yrs i live in a large city, and we have a lot of turkish people here you are right, there are a lot of gangs of youths roaming the streets, causing trouble etc etc and there are gangs of turkish youths doing this, but not just turkish, we have so many different nationalities here
7 :
Hey Kaile, people like you are not the problem --- the problem are guys not going to school, robbing, dealing etc. German government spend a lot of money to integrate foreigners to german society. But turks have in a lot of german cities their own townships and that are no go areas for the others. (I must say, that is not true for Hamburg, but if you will have problems with a young guy --- it wil be not a russian, not an african, not an asian --- it will be a turk. The real problem --- german jurisdiction is worse. You see there was a young guy --- he made 63 robberies up to the age of 14. There was a big blablabla and they send him to Turkey. At that time crime of young foreigners decreased by 18%. But some times later they let him return and one year later they send him one and a half year to prison and that is a lot for a youngster in Germany. If you are a friendly normal citizen and you have problems with another one --- I bet the other one is a Turk --- that is the problem. It is not the problem --- that there are a lot of honest Turk people ---- but who likes always be compared with criminals ---- so very much honest turks flee off the country ---- that is the other problem. In the last 20 years I had 2 problems it were problems with turks. But I also have found some turk friends.
8 :
I lived in the infamous Kreuzberg district of Berlin, Germany's capital, and must say I never felt endangerd by the Turkish Youth Gangs (well, that's exaggerated in itself: They're not much more than we were when we were young), and I'd still feel safe there. One of my best friends (Turkish, by birth, German, by nationality) keeps joking about them in his Turkish language, which I don't perfectly understand. As I lived with Turkish Youth in Berlin, I'd stick with Douglas Adams' description in the "Hitchhiker's Guide": "Mostly Harmless." That doesn't mean that they're always harmless. I'm usually harmless, too, but can arrange for a beating when racist people (what we call "neo-Nazis") come along. The Turks I know feel well integrated into our society, and those who don't should think it over. And "Islam", as I learned, is not at all a uniform religion; it has as many facets and variations as Christianity. I talked a lot with Turkish people about their religion, and it made me read the Q'ran, and I found that it is a book among others, like the Bible, or the Bhagavad-Gita. There's some wisdom in it, but in "wisdom", there's "wise", so you have to treat it wisely.
9 :
as everywhere there's some sort of alienation. minorities have the tendency to become conservative when it comes to their values. so there's both, integrated turks (insert any other minority) and the frustrated ones who seek violence (gangs, fundamentalists). though of course that goes for the frustrated germans as well (gangs, hooligans, nazis...).
10 :
There are many good answers here already. One fact still missing - the change of society and the increase of poverty. This causes people who would normally be in jobs to sit on the streets and look for excitement in their dull surrounding. This stands for some Turkish juveniles as good as for some Germans or other nations' kids. The German ones shout, how bad the Turkish, Italian, Morocco (name the countries) are. The louder they shout and write in outlets like this, the more they are heard. Still, they are not many - just noisy. And they are taken much too serious. Nevertheless, after 9/11 mistrust developed towards people with muslim religion, sad to say. This resulted into the fact, that they, of course, moved together more closely and kept to themselves. Now, if a group keeps to themselves - more mistrust develops. Plus, the old conservative rules come out stronger - i.e. Turkish girls must marry Turkish boys, etc. This again finds even less understanding in German "simple framed" heads.... All together, in the normal German life you don't really find problems. Even the little wannabe Nazi buys his "Döner" at the Turkish shop not thinking about, who is serving him. :-)
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Saturday, June 14, 2008
My boyfriend wants me to marry him, but I'm not ready
My boyfriend wants me to marry him, but I'm not ready!?
He and I have known each other for a very short period of time, and he gave me a promise ring before I left to go to Germany. I'm going to be here for the next two years, probably Turkey for 15 months, and then settling in Italy. He says now that we're engaged, and he's looking for diamond engagement rings, but I've told him that I'm not ready. I'm 19, and I want to get my degree in nursing and in art before anything drastic happens in my life. He's never met my parents, and he keeps thinking that I really don't want to get married because I want to wait. This makes no sense to me. I mean, shouldn't he want to wait? I don't want to have to split my attention between my future children and school, and I don't want to be financially unstable, so that's why I want to get education out of the way. I also am not ready for such a big commetment. He says that it's hard to trust me because everytime I raise the subject it's "one thing after another." Help!!
Marriage & Divorce - 46 Answers
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If you're not ready, DON'T DO IT
2 :
Your 19 tell him to relax!
3 :
tell him exactly what you wrote. He can't read your mind so you just need to talk to him an explain why you want to wait. Good luck!
4 :
dont rush anything
5 :
Then don't get married...wow that wasn't hard to figure out.
6 :
Tell him to fuck off
7 :
This sounds like a failure, take your time, you are very young.
8 :
talk to him honestly about all your feelings,he should appreciate it.
9 :
Make sure you tell him and why. If he understand you then he love you and if he don't it is better for you to know now than then. Good luck.
10 :
well if he really loves u then he will wait till ur ready maybe her just thinks he is going to lose u becasue u are going to germany etc
11 :
he sounds odd...and it sounds like he is pressuring you for no reason...go with your gut...i say, you make him wait...your schooling is more important right now
12 :
You need to be BLUNT with him. Sometimes a guy doesnt understand, "Im not ready" whereas he might understand, I DO NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED RIGHT NOW! Just watch your words and make your point. Dont yell, dont get mad, just clarify for him that you are NOT going to get married. If he goes out and actually buys a ring for you, he is going to be devastated, so I suggest doing this as soon as possible.
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Your right. Tell him to chill out. You might feel different in 3 months, 1 year, or 5 years but if you are not ready now than just say 'no'.
14 :
Send him a copy of your question. This guy sounds very insecure. Tell him that he doesn't get to decide that you are engaged; that you haven't accepted his proposal of marriage. A promise ring is not the real deal. You, on the other hand, sound like you are about to outgrow this guy. Tell him goodbye.
15 :
tell him the promise ring is enough for now. That after you get your education and stuff out of the way, and if your still going strong, then you might be ready to take the next step and get engaged. Don't let ANYONE pressure you. If he truly loves you, he'll want what's best for you and he'll respect your wishes. He may want to tie you down because he has nothing else going on in his life. Tell him to focus on himself.
16 :
Explain to him why you dont want to marry yet. Assure him of your love and faithfulness. If he truly loves you, he shoudl wait
17 :
Get out pen and paper and write the following. I do not want to marry you. Please do not contact me ever again. You are a stalker and probably unstable. Please seek professional help.
18 :
Don't get married, unless you are 100% sure of that is what you want. If you get married on a whim, or when you're not sure, then only disaster can result.
19 :
Stick to your guns! DO NOT let him pressure you into doing something you know you are not ready for! It may be difficult, but it will be much harder being married when you're not ready.
20 :
Well you r 19 plz take your time you have the rest of your life to settle down take it from me i was 20 when i got married never got to go college or anything take your time
21 :
Send him back his promise ring and get out of this Toxic insecure persons life while you can. Not sharing a common future plan is not sharing a common future life. Just get out now , you ll meet someone new.
22 :
You are way too young to marry, especially if you are not ready. As you travel the world your tastes will change. You may or may not wish to be with this person for the rest of your life after these experiences. If you are both truly in love he will wait and so will you. If not be kind and break it off now and give back the promise ring. Be nice and explain you are not yet ready. You can choose to be friends but I doubt he will accept that if he wants to marry. A clean break is much kinder.
23 :
Your boyfriend sounds like a controlling whackjob. If you aren't ready to get married, then don't get married. End of story. And yes, you should finish whatever degrees that you want to get first before you decide on anything else. First and foremost, it is YOUR life.
24 :
Just go for another one!
25 :
Have you told him that you want to have your schooling out of the way before getting married and starting a family? Tell him again and if he can't understand that it might be time to part ways because that is not respecting you or your wishes for the future.
26 :
19 are you ensane???? i was when i got married at 20!!! don't do it, wait until 30 at least, your 20's should be fun and not tied down with kids and hubby.
27 :
Tell your boyfriend that you want to wait after college to get married. Unless you keep changing the subject when he brings it up. Don't let him think different than what he thinks now or else he will think something really bad.
28 :
WHAT? He's trying to pressure you into marriage. I can keep my cool about some pretty fucked up things, but that's the fast track to joining the 50-some percent of Americans that end up getting divorced. Be very assertive, and tell him you're not comfortable with how he's pressuring you when he tries to do it again. Trust me, giving in will make it easier now, but so much harder in the future, and you're VERY young- I'm 18, and have enough friends my age or younger who have kids. No fun. Enjoy your youth, you only get it once.
29 :
The guy sounds pushy and incapable of accepting rejection. Once you go abroad, you can forget about him. Two years over there, focusing on your studies, preparing for your future, sounds like you've got your head on straight. Give him back his ring. Tell him there isn't nor ever was an engagement, and that he is just going to have to accept it.
30 :
It sounds like he is very insecure and there isn't much you can do about it. If you are not ready then tell him in no uncertain terms that you are not ready. Let him know that once you are in your last year of nursing that you would like him to "surprise" you with an engagement ring, but that you will say no anytime before then...and then stick to it. He will either have to deal with it or move on. You seem to have your head on straight...keep it that way! As a mom of three boys who is just finishing my BA now I have to say that I wish I would have done it before the kids. I still have a year and a half of grad school left!
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I'm 23. I got married at 20 and divorced at 21. I dated for 5 years before getting married. I would not recommend getting married that young. Finish your college. If he's wanting to marry you that bad, he'll wait and if not, then he's probably desperate. College can take you a few years unmarried or many years married, I would say take a few years and get it done and out of the way so you can focus more on your career and family later.
32 :
You're far too young and sensible for marriage and if he's too immature to understand this, I strongly suggest you end things with him. He sounds far too intense and clingy, which will not be pleasant to live with. Send him on his way and live your dream. Good luck.
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GIRL DONT GIVE IN, IF THAT IS HOW YOU FEEL THEN THATS HOW YOU FEEL, THIS IS YOUR LIFE AND YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT HAS TO LIVE WITH THE DECISIONS THAT YOU MAKE. FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND YOUR MIND. ITS GREAT THAT YOU BELIEVE THAT WAY. I WAS THE RETARD THAT RAN OFF AND GOT MARRIED, AND THOU I LEARNED ALOT. I KINDA WISHED I WOULDNT HAVE.
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"...he keeps thinking that I really don't want to get married because I want to wait." Did you tell him that or does he just think that? Do not do anything you are not prepared for especially marriage. I know I don't have to tell you that but I am anyway. You will ruin both of your lives if the time is not right. You are 19. How old is he? If he is as young as you then he needs to do a bit more living to do (as do you) before he can figure out what he really wants in life. If he's not willing to wait then he needs to move on and get over you. Your experiences traveling alone will probably reinforce the sentiment that you don't want to settle down. He should try the same.
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If you are not ready, you need to tell him to stop pressuring you. You are only 19. Don't do it just because that's what he wants, you will regret it. Why is he in such a big hurry anyway? I also believe that if this were the right guy, you wouldn't be worried about whether your degree or your marriage came first and if he cares enough about you, he will consider your feelings. Maybe he needs to move on, you are obviously at different points in your lives. Also, just because you get married while you are in school, doesn't mean that you have to have children right away, you can still wait on that. I would just give it a lot of thought. Is the possibility of losing this guy or finishing your education first more important to you? That's the ultimate question!
36 :
YOU CANT MARRY HIM. TELL HIM WHAT UP. IF YOU MARRY HIM YOU WILL BE UNHAPPY AND MAD ALL THE TIME. TELL HIM AGAIN I WANT TO BE MARRIED SOON. IF HE CANT WAIT ON YOU THEN HES NO THE ONE FOR.
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It seems to me that you are the one that is ready to get married, not him. You know what you want and when. You have a plan, and you know what is needed to be married. On the other hand, he seems to be just in a hurry and acting a little immature. I can’t really be sure, but for the little things you wrote, it makes me think this way. Have a nice talk with him, and don’t say much, just ask him what are his plans, what is it that he wants to do after marrying you. Listen to his answers, and you will know if he is prepared or if he is just going crazy and trying to marry you in a hurry. If he has actually a plan, and understand what is involved when you get married and how you guys would be a new family and that you guys would have to take care of that family, then he might be ready, so you two just need to work it out, and figure out when it would be better to do this step. But if is as I suspect and he is not ready, then it is gonna be hard for you because you must explain what is going on and how much he needs to mature before he can really think of getting married. Chances are he is going to be mad and if he doesn’t grow up, he might even think of leaving you. But this is a risk you have to take anyways, and just do your best trying to letting him see reality. Hopefully he will understand and will calm down and start planning for something real. Good luck.
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You need to take care of things YOU feel are important right now. If you're not ready and want get things "out of the way", then you need to do just that. I GUARANTEE, if you cave to the pressure you will second guess and regret for the rest of your life. Do what you need to do, then, when you have accomplished that, if marrying him is still an open option, address it then. And he obviously is not on the same track. If he does not want to wait, then maybe his desire to "married" is greater than his desire to be with you. If he is just looking to be married, and you're not ready, maybe he is not for you (or at least not for now). Just something to think about. But most of all, don't cave if you're not ready. Good Luck!!
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Just sit him down and explain everything, let him know that pushing you is not the answer to the problem. When you get married you should be happy and willing. It is good that you want to establish yourself in a career before marriage. Tell him tha you want to make sure things are set and ok before going down that road. Especially seeing as children and travel take a lot of money. If he continues to push you have to really think about how life with this kind of person may be like, such as how will he be if I do not want kids right away, or if you want to live one place and he wants to be somewhere different. If he cannot take your feelings into consideration he is not totally caring about you. tell him that if he loaves you, then he can wait for you. People stay together long times without having to make it legal. And that is all it is. Tell him that you can make a promise to him and a commitment without the legality of it. My aunt and uncle have been together for 27 years and they are not married, they feel that when you marry and something goes wrong you immediately run out and get a divorce and that is expensive and stupid. Do what you feel is right and not what he thinks you should do. Good Luck : )
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I think you should tell him that you love him but you're not ready 2 settle down yet and you want 2 achieve other goals in your life right now. And If he doesn't understand and wait till u are ready. Well he's not the 1 for U. Cuz if he loved u he would wait 4 u. P.S Don't rush in 2 anything if ur not ready!! I hope this is helpful 2 U.
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then get rid of him if he cant respect what you want
42 :
Stick to your plans. You have a say in what happens in your life, and your feeling is that you want to wait. Don't let anyone pressure you into something that doesn't feel quite right. He sounds desperate, and it's not a good thing. Take your time, and things will sort themselves out; if he decides to leave you because you have your own head on your shoulders, then I'd say good riddance. You have plenty of time to pursue your dreams, don't let anyone cheat you out of any of them.
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You don't have to make excuses, "I'm not ready to talk about marriage" should suffice. If it doesn't, he could be too controlling, and you don't need THAT for sure. Don't get married just because you feel pressured to do so. Just because he's ready, doesn't mean you should be. This may not be the guy for you. If he's not willing to give you your space, then you may just need to move on. It sounds like you have a lot going on in your life anyway.
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Why does getting married automatically equal children?? If you're having sex now, you can still have a baby and be forced with the predicament where you have divide your attention between school and a family. So you putting not being ready for children as your reason to not want to get married right now, is bull. I say its bull because none of the fears you have about getting married, would stop you from fulfilling your goals. You want to prioritize and your career goals rank higher on the list than your relationship and PREFER to complete school before getting married. There is nothing wrong with that. By the way, how can he tell you that you're engaged? That's not something you're informed of. It's mutually decided and then plans start being made. A promise ring is not an engagement ring. Also, his time table doesn't have to yours. It should not suprise you that you two are two different places regarding your relationship. I can understand you not wanting the commitment of a relationship, with you wanting to study abroad. I know you probably love your boyfriend but but if he doesn't support your goals, you're wasting your time with him. Not to mention, I assume you guys are around the same age, has he mentioned any kind of goals that he wants to pursue? Does he have a job? If not, you don't want to marry him anyway. He'll just slow you down.
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show him a copy of your e- mail and ask him to understand.
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I think you are right on target. Don't marry him. Your whole life is in front of you. Bet he is not educated himself. My husband and I are both professionals. Even with good jobs you may struggle to educate your children Ours are grown, both have a good education. There were times we struggled to be sure they had what we felt they needed. I can't imagine what uneducated people even talk about in their older years. or how they support a family in these times.
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If you are not ready to get married don't do it, Sit him down and explain to him that you love and you want to be with him but you are not ready "YET" for that big step.. He is going to be hurt for awhile but then he will calm down.. Also let him know that when you are ready you will let him know. Good Luck
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He and I have known each other for a very short period of time, and he gave me a promise ring before I left to go to Germany. I'm going to be here for the next two years, probably Turkey for 15 months, and then settling in Italy. He says now that we're engaged, and he's looking for diamond engagement rings, but I've told him that I'm not ready. I'm 19, and I want to get my degree in nursing and in art before anything drastic happens in my life. He's never met my parents, and he keeps thinking that I really don't want to get married because I want to wait. This makes no sense to me. I mean, shouldn't he want to wait? I don't want to have to split my attention between my future children and school, and I don't want to be financially unstable, so that's why I want to get education out of the way. I also am not ready for such a big commetment. He says that it's hard to trust me because everytime I raise the subject it's "one thing after another." Help!!
Marriage & Divorce - 46 Answers
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If you're not ready, DON'T DO IT
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Your 19 tell him to relax!
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tell him exactly what you wrote. He can't read your mind so you just need to talk to him an explain why you want to wait. Good luck!
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dont rush anything
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Then don't get married...wow that wasn't hard to figure out.
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Tell him to fuck off
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This sounds like a failure, take your time, you are very young.
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talk to him honestly about all your feelings,he should appreciate it.
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Make sure you tell him and why. If he understand you then he love you and if he don't it is better for you to know now than then. Good luck.
10 :
well if he really loves u then he will wait till ur ready maybe her just thinks he is going to lose u becasue u are going to germany etc
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he sounds odd...and it sounds like he is pressuring you for no reason...go with your gut...i say, you make him wait...your schooling is more important right now
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You need to be BLUNT with him. Sometimes a guy doesnt understand, "Im not ready" whereas he might understand, I DO NOT WANT TO GET MARRIED RIGHT NOW! Just watch your words and make your point. Dont yell, dont get mad, just clarify for him that you are NOT going to get married. If he goes out and actually buys a ring for you, he is going to be devastated, so I suggest doing this as soon as possible.
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Your right. Tell him to chill out. You might feel different in 3 months, 1 year, or 5 years but if you are not ready now than just say 'no'.
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Send him a copy of your question. This guy sounds very insecure. Tell him that he doesn't get to decide that you are engaged; that you haven't accepted his proposal of marriage. A promise ring is not the real deal. You, on the other hand, sound like you are about to outgrow this guy. Tell him goodbye.
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tell him the promise ring is enough for now. That after you get your education and stuff out of the way, and if your still going strong, then you might be ready to take the next step and get engaged. Don't let ANYONE pressure you. If he truly loves you, he'll want what's best for you and he'll respect your wishes. He may want to tie you down because he has nothing else going on in his life. Tell him to focus on himself.
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Explain to him why you dont want to marry yet. Assure him of your love and faithfulness. If he truly loves you, he shoudl wait
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Get out pen and paper and write the following. I do not want to marry you. Please do not contact me ever again. You are a stalker and probably unstable. Please seek professional help.
18 :
Don't get married, unless you are 100% sure of that is what you want. If you get married on a whim, or when you're not sure, then only disaster can result.
19 :
Stick to your guns! DO NOT let him pressure you into doing something you know you are not ready for! It may be difficult, but it will be much harder being married when you're not ready.
20 :
Well you r 19 plz take your time you have the rest of your life to settle down take it from me i was 20 when i got married never got to go college or anything take your time
21 :
Send him back his promise ring and get out of this Toxic insecure persons life while you can. Not sharing a common future plan is not sharing a common future life. Just get out now , you ll meet someone new.
22 :
You are way too young to marry, especially if you are not ready. As you travel the world your tastes will change. You may or may not wish to be with this person for the rest of your life after these experiences. If you are both truly in love he will wait and so will you. If not be kind and break it off now and give back the promise ring. Be nice and explain you are not yet ready. You can choose to be friends but I doubt he will accept that if he wants to marry. A clean break is much kinder.
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Your boyfriend sounds like a controlling whackjob. If you aren't ready to get married, then don't get married. End of story. And yes, you should finish whatever degrees that you want to get first before you decide on anything else. First and foremost, it is YOUR life.
24 :
Just go for another one!
25 :
Have you told him that you want to have your schooling out of the way before getting married and starting a family? Tell him again and if he can't understand that it might be time to part ways because that is not respecting you or your wishes for the future.
26 :
19 are you ensane???? i was when i got married at 20!!! don't do it, wait until 30 at least, your 20's should be fun and not tied down with kids and hubby.
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Tell your boyfriend that you want to wait after college to get married. Unless you keep changing the subject when he brings it up. Don't let him think different than what he thinks now or else he will think something really bad.
28 :
WHAT? He's trying to pressure you into marriage. I can keep my cool about some pretty fucked up things, but that's the fast track to joining the 50-some percent of Americans that end up getting divorced. Be very assertive, and tell him you're not comfortable with how he's pressuring you when he tries to do it again. Trust me, giving in will make it easier now, but so much harder in the future, and you're VERY young- I'm 18, and have enough friends my age or younger who have kids. No fun. Enjoy your youth, you only get it once.
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The guy sounds pushy and incapable of accepting rejection. Once you go abroad, you can forget about him. Two years over there, focusing on your studies, preparing for your future, sounds like you've got your head on straight. Give him back his ring. Tell him there isn't nor ever was an engagement, and that he is just going to have to accept it.
30 :
It sounds like he is very insecure and there isn't much you can do about it. If you are not ready then tell him in no uncertain terms that you are not ready. Let him know that once you are in your last year of nursing that you would like him to "surprise" you with an engagement ring, but that you will say no anytime before then...and then stick to it. He will either have to deal with it or move on. You seem to have your head on straight...keep it that way! As a mom of three boys who is just finishing my BA now I have to say that I wish I would have done it before the kids. I still have a year and a half of grad school left!
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I'm 23. I got married at 20 and divorced at 21. I dated for 5 years before getting married. I would not recommend getting married that young. Finish your college. If he's wanting to marry you that bad, he'll wait and if not, then he's probably desperate. College can take you a few years unmarried or many years married, I would say take a few years and get it done and out of the way so you can focus more on your career and family later.
32 :
You're far too young and sensible for marriage and if he's too immature to understand this, I strongly suggest you end things with him. He sounds far too intense and clingy, which will not be pleasant to live with. Send him on his way and live your dream. Good luck.
33 :
GIRL DONT GIVE IN, IF THAT IS HOW YOU FEEL THEN THATS HOW YOU FEEL, THIS IS YOUR LIFE AND YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT HAS TO LIVE WITH THE DECISIONS THAT YOU MAKE. FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND YOUR MIND. ITS GREAT THAT YOU BELIEVE THAT WAY. I WAS THE RETARD THAT RAN OFF AND GOT MARRIED, AND THOU I LEARNED ALOT. I KINDA WISHED I WOULDNT HAVE.
34 :
"...he keeps thinking that I really don't want to get married because I want to wait." Did you tell him that or does he just think that? Do not do anything you are not prepared for especially marriage. I know I don't have to tell you that but I am anyway. You will ruin both of your lives if the time is not right. You are 19. How old is he? If he is as young as you then he needs to do a bit more living to do (as do you) before he can figure out what he really wants in life. If he's not willing to wait then he needs to move on and get over you. Your experiences traveling alone will probably reinforce the sentiment that you don't want to settle down. He should try the same.
35 :
If you are not ready, you need to tell him to stop pressuring you. You are only 19. Don't do it just because that's what he wants, you will regret it. Why is he in such a big hurry anyway? I also believe that if this were the right guy, you wouldn't be worried about whether your degree or your marriage came first and if he cares enough about you, he will consider your feelings. Maybe he needs to move on, you are obviously at different points in your lives. Also, just because you get married while you are in school, doesn't mean that you have to have children right away, you can still wait on that. I would just give it a lot of thought. Is the possibility of losing this guy or finishing your education first more important to you? That's the ultimate question!
36 :
YOU CANT MARRY HIM. TELL HIM WHAT UP. IF YOU MARRY HIM YOU WILL BE UNHAPPY AND MAD ALL THE TIME. TELL HIM AGAIN I WANT TO BE MARRIED SOON. IF HE CANT WAIT ON YOU THEN HES NO THE ONE FOR.
37 :
It seems to me that you are the one that is ready to get married, not him. You know what you want and when. You have a plan, and you know what is needed to be married. On the other hand, he seems to be just in a hurry and acting a little immature. I can’t really be sure, but for the little things you wrote, it makes me think this way. Have a nice talk with him, and don’t say much, just ask him what are his plans, what is it that he wants to do after marrying you. Listen to his answers, and you will know if he is prepared or if he is just going crazy and trying to marry you in a hurry. If he has actually a plan, and understand what is involved when you get married and how you guys would be a new family and that you guys would have to take care of that family, then he might be ready, so you two just need to work it out, and figure out when it would be better to do this step. But if is as I suspect and he is not ready, then it is gonna be hard for you because you must explain what is going on and how much he needs to mature before he can really think of getting married. Chances are he is going to be mad and if he doesn’t grow up, he might even think of leaving you. But this is a risk you have to take anyways, and just do your best trying to letting him see reality. Hopefully he will understand and will calm down and start planning for something real. Good luck.
38 :
You need to take care of things YOU feel are important right now. If you're not ready and want get things "out of the way", then you need to do just that. I GUARANTEE, if you cave to the pressure you will second guess and regret for the rest of your life. Do what you need to do, then, when you have accomplished that, if marrying him is still an open option, address it then. And he obviously is not on the same track. If he does not want to wait, then maybe his desire to "married" is greater than his desire to be with you. If he is just looking to be married, and you're not ready, maybe he is not for you (or at least not for now). Just something to think about. But most of all, don't cave if you're not ready. Good Luck!!
39 :
Just sit him down and explain everything, let him know that pushing you is not the answer to the problem. When you get married you should be happy and willing. It is good that you want to establish yourself in a career before marriage. Tell him tha you want to make sure things are set and ok before going down that road. Especially seeing as children and travel take a lot of money. If he continues to push you have to really think about how life with this kind of person may be like, such as how will he be if I do not want kids right away, or if you want to live one place and he wants to be somewhere different. If he cannot take your feelings into consideration he is not totally caring about you. tell him that if he loaves you, then he can wait for you. People stay together long times without having to make it legal. And that is all it is. Tell him that you can make a promise to him and a commitment without the legality of it. My aunt and uncle have been together for 27 years and they are not married, they feel that when you marry and something goes wrong you immediately run out and get a divorce and that is expensive and stupid. Do what you feel is right and not what he thinks you should do. Good Luck : )
40 :
I think you should tell him that you love him but you're not ready 2 settle down yet and you want 2 achieve other goals in your life right now. And If he doesn't understand and wait till u are ready. Well he's not the 1 for U. Cuz if he loved u he would wait 4 u. P.S Don't rush in 2 anything if ur not ready!! I hope this is helpful 2 U.
41 :
then get rid of him if he cant respect what you want
42 :
Stick to your plans. You have a say in what happens in your life, and your feeling is that you want to wait. Don't let anyone pressure you into something that doesn't feel quite right. He sounds desperate, and it's not a good thing. Take your time, and things will sort themselves out; if he decides to leave you because you have your own head on your shoulders, then I'd say good riddance. You have plenty of time to pursue your dreams, don't let anyone cheat you out of any of them.
43 :
You don't have to make excuses, "I'm not ready to talk about marriage" should suffice. If it doesn't, he could be too controlling, and you don't need THAT for sure. Don't get married just because you feel pressured to do so. Just because he's ready, doesn't mean you should be. This may not be the guy for you. If he's not willing to give you your space, then you may just need to move on. It sounds like you have a lot going on in your life anyway.
44 :
Why does getting married automatically equal children?? If you're having sex now, you can still have a baby and be forced with the predicament where you have divide your attention between school and a family. So you putting not being ready for children as your reason to not want to get married right now, is bull. I say its bull because none of the fears you have about getting married, would stop you from fulfilling your goals. You want to prioritize and your career goals rank higher on the list than your relationship and PREFER to complete school before getting married. There is nothing wrong with that. By the way, how can he tell you that you're engaged? That's not something you're informed of. It's mutually decided and then plans start being made. A promise ring is not an engagement ring. Also, his time table doesn't have to yours. It should not suprise you that you two are two different places regarding your relationship. I can understand you not wanting the commitment of a relationship, with you wanting to study abroad. I know you probably love your boyfriend but but if he doesn't support your goals, you're wasting your time with him. Not to mention, I assume you guys are around the same age, has he mentioned any kind of goals that he wants to pursue? Does he have a job? If not, you don't want to marry him anyway. He'll just slow you down.
45 :
show him a copy of your e- mail and ask him to understand.
46 :
I think you are right on target. Don't marry him. Your whole life is in front of you. Bet he is not educated himself. My husband and I are both professionals. Even with good jobs you may struggle to educate your children Ours are grown, both have a good education. There were times we struggled to be sure they had what we felt they needed. I can't imagine what uneducated people even talk about in their older years. or how they support a family in these times.
47 :
If you are not ready to get married don't do it, Sit him down and explain to him that you love and you want to be with him but you are not ready "YET" for that big step.. He is going to be hurt for awhile but then he will calm down.. Also let him know that when you are ready you will let him know. Good Luck
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Saturday, June 7, 2008
German population in Chicago
German population in Chicago?
I am thinking of moving to Chicago after finishing my nursing degree. My aunt told me Chicago has a lot of German influence and culture. I figure a city with a high german population is the next best thing to actually living in Germany.LOL I'm looking for a city where there is large German and/or Dutch population. I have a child (school-age) so I don't want to live somewhere crawling with crime. I don't drive (don't ask! LOL). I will have a BSN/RN soon. Any germans/ dutchy's out there? I could use some penpals! ;)
Chicago - 5 Answers
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Then move to Milwaukee. That's were the Germans went. There are more Poles, Italians and Mexicans than Germans in Chicago and I honestly couldn't tell you were the German neighborhoods are!
2 :
yeah, i agree with above answer. There are German people here, but not a lot. I dont know of any German neighborhoods.
3 :
Chicago IS crawling with crime. Key West is a lovely place, I don't know about germans there, but the average nationality is alcoholic. Wasted away again........
4 :
Lincoln Square was once Chicago's German neighborhood, but the German population has assimilated over the decades and is so not very prominent here--at least not to the extent it once was. As other posters noted, you might want to look into moving to Milwaukee, if a German community is important to you. I am sure, however, that you could find German clubs, etc., here, but you would have to be proactive about finding this community.
5 :
Milwaukee or St. Louis. I live in St. Louis, and there are a lot of Germans here. Quite a few of the Bosnians here speak German too. Michigan has a lot of German towns also, like Frankenmuth.
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I am thinking of moving to Chicago after finishing my nursing degree. My aunt told me Chicago has a lot of German influence and culture. I figure a city with a high german population is the next best thing to actually living in Germany.LOL I'm looking for a city where there is large German and/or Dutch population. I have a child (school-age) so I don't want to live somewhere crawling with crime. I don't drive (don't ask! LOL). I will have a BSN/RN soon. Any germans/ dutchy's out there? I could use some penpals! ;)
Chicago - 5 Answers
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Then move to Milwaukee. That's were the Germans went. There are more Poles, Italians and Mexicans than Germans in Chicago and I honestly couldn't tell you were the German neighborhoods are!
2 :
yeah, i agree with above answer. There are German people here, but not a lot. I dont know of any German neighborhoods.
3 :
Chicago IS crawling with crime. Key West is a lovely place, I don't know about germans there, but the average nationality is alcoholic. Wasted away again........
4 :
Lincoln Square was once Chicago's German neighborhood, but the German population has assimilated over the decades and is so not very prominent here--at least not to the extent it once was. As other posters noted, you might want to look into moving to Milwaukee, if a German community is important to you. I am sure, however, that you could find German clubs, etc., here, but you would have to be proactive about finding this community.
5 :
Milwaukee or St. Louis. I live in St. Louis, and there are a lot of Germans here. Quite a few of the Bosnians here speak German too. Michigan has a lot of German towns also, like Frankenmuth.
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Sunday, June 1, 2008
Can someone give me some information about the NROTC scholarship
Can someone give me some information about the NROTC scholarship?
From what I understand this scholarship gives you up to $180,000 in money for your education in any field but then it says "Upon receiving a bachelor degree, you will be commissioned as an Ensign (0-1) in the United States Navy" and "Can apply for Navy or Nurse Corps (must major in a nursing degree program leading to a BSN)". Can someone explain what an Ensign is. Do they have much freedom as in ability to do things? How long do you have to stay with the navy if you get this scholarship? Is the navy a good career, like can you be stationed cool places like Germany? I am also thinking of majoring in dental hygiene, would this scholarship be a good option for me? Thanks. I am so confused right now.
Other - Education - 1 Answers
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I found some info about getting this scholarship online in this scholarship database - scholarships.onlinewebshop.net
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From what I understand this scholarship gives you up to $180,000 in money for your education in any field but then it says "Upon receiving a bachelor degree, you will be commissioned as an Ensign (0-1) in the United States Navy" and "Can apply for Navy or Nurse Corps (must major in a nursing degree program leading to a BSN)". Can someone explain what an Ensign is. Do they have much freedom as in ability to do things? How long do you have to stay with the navy if you get this scholarship? Is the navy a good career, like can you be stationed cool places like Germany? I am also thinking of majoring in dental hygiene, would this scholarship be a good option for me? Thanks. I am so confused right now.
Other - Education - 1 Answers
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I found some info about getting this scholarship online in this scholarship database - scholarships.onlinewebshop.net
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Wednesday, May 28, 2008
k1 visa interview
k1 visa interview?
my fiance has his visa interview in just over 2 wks. i am terribly nervous. i am worried about r affidavit of support. i met the income guidelines last yr and was above, however i took an hr cut in 2007 to finish my nursing degree. at right at the cut off of the 175% poverty level for 2 people. now, i also have savings stocks retirement and property. these onto my income put me over the requirement. should i worry? also, does anyone no the waiting period for a visa from germany? i keep hearing horror stories of 10 yr bars and waiting months or a yr. we were hoping to b married may 4th. this date is very important to us. any advice? i will not be going to the interview with him. he is in germany i am in the us. i dont no if it matters but he has a masters degree in computer science so it isnt like hes coming completely empty handed, but it didnt ask anything pertaining to this on the I-134. now he hasnt really worked for about a yr (hes assisted on a few projects) but hed come stay w/ me for 90 days on his passport then go home for about 30 days then come back. (we just want to b together)
Immigration - 1 Answers
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If you filed out all your papers correctly, filed them, and they ask for info and you gave it then all you can do is go in and answer the questions they ask honestly. you do not need a pro to go with you or pay to file forms, or anything eles.
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my fiance has his visa interview in just over 2 wks. i am terribly nervous. i am worried about r affidavit of support. i met the income guidelines last yr and was above, however i took an hr cut in 2007 to finish my nursing degree. at right at the cut off of the 175% poverty level for 2 people. now, i also have savings stocks retirement and property. these onto my income put me over the requirement. should i worry? also, does anyone no the waiting period for a visa from germany? i keep hearing horror stories of 10 yr bars and waiting months or a yr. we were hoping to b married may 4th. this date is very important to us. any advice? i will not be going to the interview with him. he is in germany i am in the us. i dont no if it matters but he has a masters degree in computer science so it isnt like hes coming completely empty handed, but it didnt ask anything pertaining to this on the I-134. now he hasnt really worked for about a yr (hes assisted on a few projects) but hed come stay w/ me for 90 days on his passport then go home for about 30 days then come back. (we just want to b together)
Immigration - 1 Answers
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If you filed out all your papers correctly, filed them, and they ask for info and you gave it then all you can do is go in and answer the questions they ask honestly. you do not need a pro to go with you or pay to file forms, or anything eles.
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Wednesday, May 14, 2008
bilingual....what can i do with it
bilingual....what can i do with it?
I speak german and english, both fluently,and I was thinking about moving back to germany, or if I stay in US it doesnt matter, I wish I could make money by being bilingual. anybody have any suggestons? actually I am into Nursing, I am still gonna get my nursing degree, but I was wondering If I could do something with my bilingual self? I appreciate any answer or give me a web page where I can look things up
Languages - 5 Answers
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Translation, especially of medical documents, would be a good way to make money.
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wow. very nice i can speak russian and spanish but not fluently though. Become a translator for people who need to translate german to english and english to German.
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Definately look into an English Second Language (ESL) teaching program!
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Translator is a great job.
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Being bilingual in Germany will bring you more money than in the US, English to German is not as good as to German to English. Other than becoming a German teacher it is not much in the US good luck
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I speak german and english, both fluently,and I was thinking about moving back to germany, or if I stay in US it doesnt matter, I wish I could make money by being bilingual. anybody have any suggestons? actually I am into Nursing, I am still gonna get my nursing degree, but I was wondering If I could do something with my bilingual self? I appreciate any answer or give me a web page where I can look things up
Languages - 5 Answers
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Translation, especially of medical documents, would be a good way to make money.
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wow. very nice i can speak russian and spanish but not fluently though. Become a translator for people who need to translate german to english and english to German.
3 :
Definately look into an English Second Language (ESL) teaching program!
4 :
Translator is a great job.
5 :
Being bilingual in Germany will bring you more money than in the US, English to German is not as good as to German to English. Other than becoming a German teacher it is not much in the US good luck
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Wednesday, May 7, 2008
How to get in college while stationed with husband in Germany
How to get in college while stationed with husband in Germany?
I am trying to get registered for school while stationed over in Germany with my husband who is in the Army. I have been out of high school going on 6 years in april. I haven't started trying to get my degree yet so busy with my kids. I would like to start my pre reqs for nursing school. I went to the education councilors over here and they handed me a bunch of pamphlet's and said good luck ... they suck at their job!!!! I have tried googling but I don't understand any of it. If anyone knows anything that could help me I would appreciate it. I am not an idiot, I am just new to all of it.
Financial Aid - 1 Answers
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You can try online schooling. University of Phoenix Kaplan University Walden University Here is a website with more: http://www.guidetoonlineschools.com/online-schools These should help yo get your general education in for the first 2 years.
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I am trying to get registered for school while stationed over in Germany with my husband who is in the Army. I have been out of high school going on 6 years in april. I haven't started trying to get my degree yet so busy with my kids. I would like to start my pre reqs for nursing school. I went to the education councilors over here and they handed me a bunch of pamphlet's and said good luck ... they suck at their job!!!! I have tried googling but I don't understand any of it. If anyone knows anything that could help me I would appreciate it. I am not an idiot, I am just new to all of it.
Financial Aid - 1 Answers
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You can try online schooling. University of Phoenix Kaplan University Walden University Here is a website with more: http://www.guidetoonlineschools.com/online-schools These should help yo get your general education in for the first 2 years.
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Thursday, May 1, 2008
Currently stationed in Germany, Husband due to deploy in Feb 09' but school starts Dec in TN do I go
Currently stationed in Germany, Husband due to deploy in Feb 09' but school starts Dec in TN do I go?
I will have been in Germany for almost a year with my husband when my nursing school starts back in the states..Nursing is not a option here for me in Germany. Its a 13 month course. He will be deployed in Feb 09' for Iraq (as we know so far) I feel really bad for leaving my husband in Dec to go do school but if I wait Ill have to spend time away from him after his deployment but im soo scared something will happen to him and ill wish I would have stayed that extra month..But schooling is important b/c when we go back to the states from Germany I will be the only one working while he is school finishing his degree.. I don't know what to do..My husband is far more important than schooling but we will be in a bind if we go back to the states and me and him both in school..
Marriage & Divorce - 4 Answers
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Go back to TN for school. Good luck.
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Discuss it with your husband and see how he feels about it. Maybe he will be able to take some leave before shipping out to Iraq. Also since you are military, you may be able to fly back and forth on military planes.
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It sounds as if whether you go in Dec or after he comes back from his deployment that you are going to have to be away from each other. Ask your husband which he would prefer, since this both concerns you guys and go from there. You should definitely finish school though, especially since your husband want to finish school when you get back to the states.Is there any chance that your husband can take leave in Dec or Jan? If so, go ahead and start school and let him spend time with you down there. If not, maybe you shouldn't go but instead use your time in Germany to get a job at like the BX or Commissary and just save up a ton of money until he gets back, that way you are not in a financial bind when you go back to the States and you can both go to school at the same time.
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I am also stationed in Germany and I am also deploying in January 09. I am in Finance and keep one thing in mind. If you go home for more then 30 days your husband will lose COLA. Now if you go home on ERD orders your trip home will be paid for and you will get BAH while your husband is deployed. You did not mention in your question what your husband thinks. I would like to know that before I can answer you. If your husband feels the same way you do then go. If not take his feelings into consideration and decide together, since whatever financial situation you find yourself in will be his also. Good luck and from one Soldier to another Soldier tell him I said God Bless.
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I will have been in Germany for almost a year with my husband when my nursing school starts back in the states..Nursing is not a option here for me in Germany. Its a 13 month course. He will be deployed in Feb 09' for Iraq (as we know so far) I feel really bad for leaving my husband in Dec to go do school but if I wait Ill have to spend time away from him after his deployment but im soo scared something will happen to him and ill wish I would have stayed that extra month..But schooling is important b/c when we go back to the states from Germany I will be the only one working while he is school finishing his degree.. I don't know what to do..My husband is far more important than schooling but we will be in a bind if we go back to the states and me and him both in school..
Marriage & Divorce - 4 Answers
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Go back to TN for school. Good luck.
2 :
Discuss it with your husband and see how he feels about it. Maybe he will be able to take some leave before shipping out to Iraq. Also since you are military, you may be able to fly back and forth on military planes.
3 :
It sounds as if whether you go in Dec or after he comes back from his deployment that you are going to have to be away from each other. Ask your husband which he would prefer, since this both concerns you guys and go from there. You should definitely finish school though, especially since your husband want to finish school when you get back to the states.Is there any chance that your husband can take leave in Dec or Jan? If so, go ahead and start school and let him spend time with you down there. If not, maybe you shouldn't go but instead use your time in Germany to get a job at like the BX or Commissary and just save up a ton of money until he gets back, that way you are not in a financial bind when you go back to the States and you can both go to school at the same time.
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I am also stationed in Germany and I am also deploying in January 09. I am in Finance and keep one thing in mind. If you go home for more then 30 days your husband will lose COLA. Now if you go home on ERD orders your trip home will be paid for and you will get BAH while your husband is deployed. You did not mention in your question what your husband thinks. I would like to know that before I can answer you. If your husband feels the same way you do then go. If not take his feelings into consideration and decide together, since whatever financial situation you find yourself in will be his also. Good luck and from one Soldier to another Soldier tell him I said God Bless.
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