Moving to Columbia soon?
I have lived in Germany for about 4 years. So we finally got our orders I started freakin out!!! I just need help with everything! Where is a good nursing school, CNA training or a good place to get a job in health administration, I have my degree in that. Also a good daycare, good area to live, and horseback riding lessons, my 4 year old takes them over here. Also where is a good used car place. My car that isn't even paid off blew up so I can't really afford another payment. Anything else that anyone can tell me I would really appreciate!! Thanks in advance! Sorry I forgot that part... South Carolina
Other - United States - 1 Answers
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To get advice, you need to tell us what state you are moving to because we have a lot of cities called Columbia in the U.S.... Sorry can't help you. I'm close to Columbia, MO.
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Monday, July 28, 2008
Monday, July 14, 2008
Army Wife, Doesnt know what to do
Army Wife, Doesnt know what to do.?
Well my husband and I knew I was going to be leaving Germany soon so i can get the rest of my degree and be a nurse by the time he got back from his deployment (he leaves June 09 for deployment) He does have Block leave to come home in May for 2 weeks but because im leaving a whole month before he comes home I feel Horrible.. (Hes at pre deployment trainging so i cant tell him the letter came today and i have to fly out March 31st (Which was around the time we expected) but I cant stop crying, I dont want to leave him here..and i know i will see him again before he deploys but I feel horrible...The only reason i was getting this degree is not only because i want to be a nurse but for us..So he doesnt have to re inlist and even if he does re inlist so we can come back to U.S. and live comfortably and settle down and start a family..We have been away from each other before *about 8months before we got maried.. and we are young but (going on 7 years together)..I feel so bad but if i dont get this degree , when he comes back from deployment , ill be in school and will not get that time with him. he is going to Iraq for a year and i have been told how selfish i am to leave him here for 4 or so weeks..But im not im doing this for us... But why do i feel so bad... He wants me to do this , but im scared i guess :(.... Yes he wants me to go for sure. I have delayed this school 2 times already before and i was fine with that. This school Starts in May 09 and ends April 2010 (2 months before his deployment. The next time i could go to this school is September 2009. That means when he comes back from deployment I wont be done with school for another two months and couldnt join him at the next duty station (He still has 3 years in) and i wanted to get my degree where when he gets done with the next 3 years, he himself can go to college instead of re enlisting for financial reasons with the economy like this
Military - 9 Answers
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I think by going you are being very mature and responsible. Yes, it will suck, but when he returns you will be able to spend time together then, and be financially stable. Let your husband know there are still people supporting and praying for him. God bless you.
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First of all, bless you and your husband through these difficult times. Whoever said you were being selfish is out of place for doing so. You, and your husband, know that you are doing this for the both of you. There's nothing selfish about thinking of the future. No one said military life was going to be easy; you should have known about this when your husband joined. Every marriage experiences sacrifices, and this one that you both will have to endure. Know this: as a soldier, he is trained to live without his family for durations of deployments. It will be rough for him, as it will be rough for you, but right now he's serving a great purpose; he's serving his country. Pray for him, love him, and let him know what you're feeling right now. Let him read this question and I'm sure he'll understand why you're doing what you're doing. Best of luck to you.
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Unsure, Are you certain your husband is being honest when he says he wants you to do this? I was in the military for 24.5 years and I never knew a spouse to say they didn't want their husband or wife to be there when they left or came back from deployment. I'd suggest you both go sit down with your husband's unit chaplain, or another counselor. There are three issues I see here: 1. How you are feeling - which you're feeling bad. 2. Whether or not you should go. 3. The fact you are doing this so your husband won't have to reenlist. [You didn't say he wanted you to become a nurse so he wouldn't have to reenlist]. In my own way of thinking, being together at highly stressful times, and supporting each-other emotionally during those times is far more important than living comfortably. [I've been married 32 years]. "Ranger"
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First off, who told you you were selfish? If you and your husband are agreed, then ignore whoever told you that. His/her opinion doesn't matter. Second, if you really want to spend every possible minute with your husband, could you delay starting school for another term, or even another year? You're not selfish, in fact you're being very mature, but if you just feel in your gut that this is the wrong decision, then maybe you could change your schedule. Hope it all works out for you.
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I would say make the decision that is best for your marriage. If you think your marriage would survive your school and his deployment situation then it is the best solution to go, especially for the long term benefit. The best part is he is supportive. I wouldn't say you are being selfish at all. In fact, you would be sacrificing what your heart wants right now for the improvement of your live's together overall. Hope this helps and best of luck.
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You might want to post this question in the family section since it is primarily a relationship issue. The part that is curious to me is "and i have been told how selfish i am to leave him here for 4 or so weeks". Who told you that? I'm guessing it wasn't your husband because all of the other parts of your situation seem to indicate that your husband is on board and in fact suspected that your departure date might occur when it has. If there are other people telling you that you are selfish but your husband is on board with your plans then who cares what they think. Another way to look at this is that you are "deploying". Lord knows that your husband, if he stays, in will deploy again and you will be separated. It appears that you guys have arranged for your "deployment" to happen at the same time as his. The only negative is that it wasn't a dead on perfect match for when you would be apart and that you will lose out on some 4 weeks of time together if you could have delayed your departure. I don't see any mention of any children in this and if you do have children in the future it would make it that much more difficult for you to complete your training. The only other option that I see is that you put your nursing training on hold until your family is stationed back in the states so that you don't have to "deploy" to complete your training. Good luck.
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Being scared is a very human emotion along with feeling bad when we think we're being selfish. By the way, you're definitely not being selfish by planning for a future for your family, just the opposite. A little seperation now and when he comes home after deployment you'll have so many more options for a better future together than you currently have. While you're in school the time he's away will go much faster and you'll be doing something that is not only worthwhile but will put your husband's mind at ease that you're safe, happy and very busy doing something important. My husband is currently in Afghanistan and has been there for four months and I keep myself busy doing whatever I can to make this a better home for him and taking classes. It also helps the days not seem so long and keeps my mind occupied with something other than worrying about him. I'm supposing that your fears and tears aren't so much from "you" leaving for school but for him being deployed and I totally understand it. I truly hope you go for your degree and I'll keep your husband in my prayers. Ps...I cried a river the two weeks before he left even though he has 28 years service...but he is definitely so much happier when he hears about my accomplishments, the funny things our pets do and it takes a huge burden off his shoulders knowing I'm doing just fine here!
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If this is something that you and him have spoken about I dont see the problem....you are both sacrificing for a better future...that is pretty much the life of a Soldier....sacrifice a little now so our children wont hopefully have to sacrifice alot later. Sure you want to be there before he deploys but if your schooling was the most important issue in your family unit before he left than sometimes its the decisions we make that we have to stand by. There are phones and it will have to be the same way when he is gone...phone calls and emails. He knows you love him and you know he loves you...now go and get your schooling done...it sounds like you and he have a plan and goals and are ambitious to achieve those things...so do them and know that you both will be the stronger if not the better for it because you have both sat down...discussed...planned...and now executed the decision to make not only you as individuals better for each other but the both of you as equals better for each other. Best of luck and Thank you for joining us in this time of need
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This is interesting because my wife just finished up her RN so that I could get out. My advice GO FOR IT. I am 8 months away from my ETS right now and the light at the end of the tunnel gets brighter every day. And the new GI bill will really help him go to college. GO FOR IT. GOOD LUCK!!!!
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Well my husband and I knew I was going to be leaving Germany soon so i can get the rest of my degree and be a nurse by the time he got back from his deployment (he leaves June 09 for deployment) He does have Block leave to come home in May for 2 weeks but because im leaving a whole month before he comes home I feel Horrible.. (Hes at pre deployment trainging so i cant tell him the letter came today and i have to fly out March 31st (Which was around the time we expected) but I cant stop crying, I dont want to leave him here..and i know i will see him again before he deploys but I feel horrible...The only reason i was getting this degree is not only because i want to be a nurse but for us..So he doesnt have to re inlist and even if he does re inlist so we can come back to U.S. and live comfortably and settle down and start a family..We have been away from each other before *about 8months before we got maried.. and we are young but (going on 7 years together)..I feel so bad but if i dont get this degree , when he comes back from deployment , ill be in school and will not get that time with him. he is going to Iraq for a year and i have been told how selfish i am to leave him here for 4 or so weeks..But im not im doing this for us... But why do i feel so bad... He wants me to do this , but im scared i guess :(.... Yes he wants me to go for sure. I have delayed this school 2 times already before and i was fine with that. This school Starts in May 09 and ends April 2010 (2 months before his deployment. The next time i could go to this school is September 2009. That means when he comes back from deployment I wont be done with school for another two months and couldnt join him at the next duty station (He still has 3 years in) and i wanted to get my degree where when he gets done with the next 3 years, he himself can go to college instead of re enlisting for financial reasons with the economy like this
Military - 9 Answers
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I think by going you are being very mature and responsible. Yes, it will suck, but when he returns you will be able to spend time together then, and be financially stable. Let your husband know there are still people supporting and praying for him. God bless you.
2 :
First of all, bless you and your husband through these difficult times. Whoever said you were being selfish is out of place for doing so. You, and your husband, know that you are doing this for the both of you. There's nothing selfish about thinking of the future. No one said military life was going to be easy; you should have known about this when your husband joined. Every marriage experiences sacrifices, and this one that you both will have to endure. Know this: as a soldier, he is trained to live without his family for durations of deployments. It will be rough for him, as it will be rough for you, but right now he's serving a great purpose; he's serving his country. Pray for him, love him, and let him know what you're feeling right now. Let him read this question and I'm sure he'll understand why you're doing what you're doing. Best of luck to you.
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Unsure, Are you certain your husband is being honest when he says he wants you to do this? I was in the military for 24.5 years and I never knew a spouse to say they didn't want their husband or wife to be there when they left or came back from deployment. I'd suggest you both go sit down with your husband's unit chaplain, or another counselor. There are three issues I see here: 1. How you are feeling - which you're feeling bad. 2. Whether or not you should go. 3. The fact you are doing this so your husband won't have to reenlist. [You didn't say he wanted you to become a nurse so he wouldn't have to reenlist]. In my own way of thinking, being together at highly stressful times, and supporting each-other emotionally during those times is far more important than living comfortably. [I've been married 32 years]. "Ranger"
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First off, who told you you were selfish? If you and your husband are agreed, then ignore whoever told you that. His/her opinion doesn't matter. Second, if you really want to spend every possible minute with your husband, could you delay starting school for another term, or even another year? You're not selfish, in fact you're being very mature, but if you just feel in your gut that this is the wrong decision, then maybe you could change your schedule. Hope it all works out for you.
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I would say make the decision that is best for your marriage. If you think your marriage would survive your school and his deployment situation then it is the best solution to go, especially for the long term benefit. The best part is he is supportive. I wouldn't say you are being selfish at all. In fact, you would be sacrificing what your heart wants right now for the improvement of your live's together overall. Hope this helps and best of luck.
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You might want to post this question in the family section since it is primarily a relationship issue. The part that is curious to me is "and i have been told how selfish i am to leave him here for 4 or so weeks". Who told you that? I'm guessing it wasn't your husband because all of the other parts of your situation seem to indicate that your husband is on board and in fact suspected that your departure date might occur when it has. If there are other people telling you that you are selfish but your husband is on board with your plans then who cares what they think. Another way to look at this is that you are "deploying". Lord knows that your husband, if he stays, in will deploy again and you will be separated. It appears that you guys have arranged for your "deployment" to happen at the same time as his. The only negative is that it wasn't a dead on perfect match for when you would be apart and that you will lose out on some 4 weeks of time together if you could have delayed your departure. I don't see any mention of any children in this and if you do have children in the future it would make it that much more difficult for you to complete your training. The only other option that I see is that you put your nursing training on hold until your family is stationed back in the states so that you don't have to "deploy" to complete your training. Good luck.
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Being scared is a very human emotion along with feeling bad when we think we're being selfish. By the way, you're definitely not being selfish by planning for a future for your family, just the opposite. A little seperation now and when he comes home after deployment you'll have so many more options for a better future together than you currently have. While you're in school the time he's away will go much faster and you'll be doing something that is not only worthwhile but will put your husband's mind at ease that you're safe, happy and very busy doing something important. My husband is currently in Afghanistan and has been there for four months and I keep myself busy doing whatever I can to make this a better home for him and taking classes. It also helps the days not seem so long and keeps my mind occupied with something other than worrying about him. I'm supposing that your fears and tears aren't so much from "you" leaving for school but for him being deployed and I totally understand it. I truly hope you go for your degree and I'll keep your husband in my prayers. Ps...I cried a river the two weeks before he left even though he has 28 years service...but he is definitely so much happier when he hears about my accomplishments, the funny things our pets do and it takes a huge burden off his shoulders knowing I'm doing just fine here!
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If this is something that you and him have spoken about I dont see the problem....you are both sacrificing for a better future...that is pretty much the life of a Soldier....sacrifice a little now so our children wont hopefully have to sacrifice alot later. Sure you want to be there before he deploys but if your schooling was the most important issue in your family unit before he left than sometimes its the decisions we make that we have to stand by. There are phones and it will have to be the same way when he is gone...phone calls and emails. He knows you love him and you know he loves you...now go and get your schooling done...it sounds like you and he have a plan and goals and are ambitious to achieve those things...so do them and know that you both will be the stronger if not the better for it because you have both sat down...discussed...planned...and now executed the decision to make not only you as individuals better for each other but the both of you as equals better for each other. Best of luck and Thank you for joining us in this time of need
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This is interesting because my wife just finished up her RN so that I could get out. My advice GO FOR IT. I am 8 months away from my ETS right now and the light at the end of the tunnel gets brighter every day. And the new GI bill will really help him go to college. GO FOR IT. GOOD LUCK!!!!
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Monday, July 7, 2008
Military,Overseas and confused for school
Military,Overseas and confused for school.?
Well long story short...I love my husband with my life we have been married a year and dating 6 years.. We are stationed in Germany, I was accepted into a nursing school for 12months (it lines up perfect with his deployment, so we arent apart by choice...However In order for me to go home and EROD i have to leave him in March an he doesnt deploy till June BUT he will be home in MAY where i will be in TENNESSEE for Block Leave...Everyone is telling me im selfish, he could die..and i know he could but he is going to a pretty safe area that has calmed down in Iraq (no excuse) but Im doing this degree for us , so he can go to college when his time is up and we do not financially strugle...How does that make me selfish?? I feel like im doing the right thing and so does he..I feel horrible for him having to be here 7 weeks alone but this is our future and i cant go to this school again untill Sept 09 (that means i will be away from him for 2 months after his deployment and he goes to another duty station..Am i doing the right thing?? Thanks.. We are young lol 20..High School Sweethearts all the way to middle school..Which is why i think its sooo important to get my degree right now while i have a chance to not be away from him so long. However Trust me two months is nothin to whoever left that comment..We have already spent a year apart before we got married and of course here and there tdys (for weeks to months) just needed second oppions that I wasnt do the wrong thing and i feel really good about what im doing and know we will be fine..I just didnt feel like i was being selfish at all because the degree is for both of us :) Thanks all who left oppions! I really Appreciate
Military - 5 Answers
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You are doing the right thing. I told every one of my guys when I was in to PLAN FOR SEPARATION the moment you enlist. If you do that you can't go wrong. If you decided to re-up then you're sitting with a bachelor's degree and can choose an officer program possibly. So, you should do the same thing. Plan ahead for the separation. If you can go ahead and get a degree then it would be good for both of you.
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yes you are doing the right thing. YOU need to do what is best for YOUR career too.
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You must be young and in love if you are having this much heartbreak over less than two month's separation. Separation is a normal part of military life. Ignore the "everyone" calling you selfish - their comments say more about their issues than yours.
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These people who think war means they will die, I knew of three soldiers who came home and died so just because they go to war does nto mean they will go over there and die, my husband almiost died two times, but God was with him, I mean miracles do happen over there, you just don;t hear about them and yes soldiers die, but the three I knew came home after deployment, and two died in a car wreck and one was gang related.
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This decision is between the two of you and no one else. It sounds like you have thought this through very carefully and you are doing the best thing for your future together. Unfortunately, you are probably going to feel small regrets whichever choice you make. That doesn't mean that it was a wrong decision, just that some decisions are hard. I agree that it seems like other people are projecting their own issues on you. Good luck - you sound like a smart girl!
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Well long story short...I love my husband with my life we have been married a year and dating 6 years.. We are stationed in Germany, I was accepted into a nursing school for 12months (it lines up perfect with his deployment, so we arent apart by choice...However In order for me to go home and EROD i have to leave him in March an he doesnt deploy till June BUT he will be home in MAY where i will be in TENNESSEE for Block Leave...Everyone is telling me im selfish, he could die..and i know he could but he is going to a pretty safe area that has calmed down in Iraq (no excuse) but Im doing this degree for us , so he can go to college when his time is up and we do not financially strugle...How does that make me selfish?? I feel like im doing the right thing and so does he..I feel horrible for him having to be here 7 weeks alone but this is our future and i cant go to this school again untill Sept 09 (that means i will be away from him for 2 months after his deployment and he goes to another duty station..Am i doing the right thing?? Thanks.. We are young lol 20..High School Sweethearts all the way to middle school..Which is why i think its sooo important to get my degree right now while i have a chance to not be away from him so long. However Trust me two months is nothin to whoever left that comment..We have already spent a year apart before we got married and of course here and there tdys (for weeks to months) just needed second oppions that I wasnt do the wrong thing and i feel really good about what im doing and know we will be fine..I just didnt feel like i was being selfish at all because the degree is for both of us :) Thanks all who left oppions! I really Appreciate
Military - 5 Answers
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You are doing the right thing. I told every one of my guys when I was in to PLAN FOR SEPARATION the moment you enlist. If you do that you can't go wrong. If you decided to re-up then you're sitting with a bachelor's degree and can choose an officer program possibly. So, you should do the same thing. Plan ahead for the separation. If you can go ahead and get a degree then it would be good for both of you.
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yes you are doing the right thing. YOU need to do what is best for YOUR career too.
3 :
You must be young and in love if you are having this much heartbreak over less than two month's separation. Separation is a normal part of military life. Ignore the "everyone" calling you selfish - their comments say more about their issues than yours.
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These people who think war means they will die, I knew of three soldiers who came home and died so just because they go to war does nto mean they will go over there and die, my husband almiost died two times, but God was with him, I mean miracles do happen over there, you just don;t hear about them and yes soldiers die, but the three I knew came home after deployment, and two died in a car wreck and one was gang related.
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This decision is between the two of you and no one else. It sounds like you have thought this through very carefully and you are doing the best thing for your future together. Unfortunately, you are probably going to feel small regrets whichever choice you make. That doesn't mean that it was a wrong decision, just that some decisions are hard. I agree that it seems like other people are projecting their own issues on you. Good luck - you sound like a smart girl!
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Tuesday, July 1, 2008
How can get Newzeland PR
How can get Newzeland PR?
Hi I am Shyam from Nepal. I really want to get PR from Newzeland but how come it be possible? I have more than 10 years working experience in different health organizations and presently, working in UNICEF, Nepal. Regarding qualification, I have completed Masters degree in International health from Germany, Sweden and Denmark along with graduation in Nursing from Nepal. Besides this, I have also completed Masters Degree in Health Education, Diploma in Public Health and Tropical Medicine. If have any possibility, please share me and guide me how can I get PR from Newzeland ? Your suggestion and guidance is highly appriciative. Shyam
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Scrub up on up your English for a start...you will need to be fluent...
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Or at least learn to spell the name of it. It's two words, New Zealand.
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Hi I am Shyam from Nepal. I really want to get PR from Newzeland but how come it be possible? I have more than 10 years working experience in different health organizations and presently, working in UNICEF, Nepal. Regarding qualification, I have completed Masters degree in International health from Germany, Sweden and Denmark along with graduation in Nursing from Nepal. Besides this, I have also completed Masters Degree in Health Education, Diploma in Public Health and Tropical Medicine. If have any possibility, please share me and guide me how can I get PR from Newzeland ? Your suggestion and guidance is highly appriciative. Shyam
Immigration - 2 Answers
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Scrub up on up your English for a start...you will need to be fluent...
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Or at least learn to spell the name of it. It's two words, New Zealand.
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