im 36 weeks pregnant and i have been very dizzy lately and today i have been having sharp pains in my vagina?
it feels like a knife is poking me in the vagina. my stomach is not cramping or anything. im living in germany and my german doctor has not checked me in the last 6 weeks only gave me a sonogram. also she is still not seeing me once a week. i see her next on tuesday the 8th. should i go in and see her? calling the docs is pointless because most of the nurses dont understand english.
Pregnancy - 5 Answers
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i would if the pain keeping going on and try to lay a pillow under were it hurts it helps some but give her a call
2 :
Its normal, i had it in the last few weeks with my first and have just started getting it again with my second and im 29 weeks. Yeah its annoying and a bit sore, but it will all be over for you soon
3 :
My baby is actually jabbing me down there as I type this. Im pretty sure its normal. (im 36 weeks too) Babes just getting bigger and when she stretches shell bump you "down there" because there isnt much room. I just had a doc appointment today and he examined me and she healthy and active. You really shouldnt worry. But it never hurts to call and make sure
4 :
Your doc should be seeing you every week right now. If the pain is tollerable just take it easy for a while and try to get some rest. Get something to eat to stabalize your blood sugar and that may help the dizzyness. If it worsens please do not hessitate to see your doctor because that is what they are there for and its their job! Listen to your body and if you feel like something is wrong, don't take any chances for the sake of saving face with your lazy doc. Sharp pains in the vagina are mainly attributed to the body getting ready for labor and delivery but it is not a direct symptom of labor itself. Please take care, and I will say a prayer for your pains:)
5 :
I am 35 weeks and i have to same feelings. I am dizzy and lightheaded, but they told me recently that i was anemic and i just needed to increase my Iron, so you may want to look into that and make sure your blood pressure isn't to low (or high) bc that could be a cause as well. I also have the sharp pains down there but no cramps or contractions in several days just the pain like inside. Im not exactly sure what causes that pain, ive heard it is just your body preparing and strengthening. But if it makes you feel any better I have been having it for a little more than a week and im not in labor or anything so i would contact your doctor but i wouldn't pack my hospital bags just yet. Also, I think that is a little odd that you aren't being seen that often, I live in the US, is that normal for over there? i have been seen every 4 weeks and then recently every 2 weeks and now every week. i also have a appt on the 8th. Ask too if she will see if you are dilated at all yet bc that can be normal and fine but it sure would be nice to know if you are already dilated some. that's what they said about me as well. I know none of this is direct personal advice but just from my experiences, i hope it helps! Congrats and Good Luck!!
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Friday, May 28, 2010
Friday, May 14, 2010
Harassment and bullies at the working place in Germany. Please, help
Harassment and bullies at the working place in Germany. Please, help!?
I am a medical doctor and started recently working in a hospital in Germany. As this is the first time i am in this country, i had some difficult moments with the language at the beginning. The problem is that instead of trying to be supporting, my boss and the nurses are making jokes of that. Which frustrates me really much and is the reason i could not improve my proficiency of the german language at all for the last 2 months. And when my boss humiliated me before about 10 nurses. She said smth i could not at first understand and then she just repeated the same thing 3 times with exactly the same words, looking at me as if i was an idiot to not understand, which made the nurses laughing and joking about that. I was so embarrassedd, i could not say a proper sentence and just left the meeting. Plus, cos i have only 1 yr working experience, the nurses treat me as if i am some kind of mentally retarded and ignore me almost all the time. Instead of being tought i am all the time pushed to do stuff i am not ready for. And after that - looked at as if i am a complete idiot and of course "oh, you know, in our universities in Germany we do this and those so good, obviously in your country you haven't been taught that well..." Please, could anyone give me advice what to do and how to fight this harassment and humiliation. I am so frustrated that my german even gets worse and worse. I can't do my job well, cos there is always someone to look at me in a disrespectful manner. I can't take it anymore and have started looking for another job. But it takes time to find new placements and to go on interviews and so on. And on the other hand, this is a well paid job in a town i quite like - why should i lose this job just cos they think they can abuse me. Any legal advice would be really highly appreciated! Many thanks in advance!
Etiquette - 2 Answers
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Just tell the guy you will report him to his superior he won't like that especially if you tell him you will make a WRITTEN complaint.
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Could try a written complaint, maybe that's one option.
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I am a medical doctor and started recently working in a hospital in Germany. As this is the first time i am in this country, i had some difficult moments with the language at the beginning. The problem is that instead of trying to be supporting, my boss and the nurses are making jokes of that. Which frustrates me really much and is the reason i could not improve my proficiency of the german language at all for the last 2 months. And when my boss humiliated me before about 10 nurses. She said smth i could not at first understand and then she just repeated the same thing 3 times with exactly the same words, looking at me as if i was an idiot to not understand, which made the nurses laughing and joking about that. I was so embarrassedd, i could not say a proper sentence and just left the meeting. Plus, cos i have only 1 yr working experience, the nurses treat me as if i am some kind of mentally retarded and ignore me almost all the time. Instead of being tought i am all the time pushed to do stuff i am not ready for. And after that - looked at as if i am a complete idiot and of course "oh, you know, in our universities in Germany we do this and those so good, obviously in your country you haven't been taught that well..." Please, could anyone give me advice what to do and how to fight this harassment and humiliation. I am so frustrated that my german even gets worse and worse. I can't do my job well, cos there is always someone to look at me in a disrespectful manner. I can't take it anymore and have started looking for another job. But it takes time to find new placements and to go on interviews and so on. And on the other hand, this is a well paid job in a town i quite like - why should i lose this job just cos they think they can abuse me. Any legal advice would be really highly appreciated! Many thanks in advance!
Etiquette - 2 Answers
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Just tell the guy you will report him to his superior he won't like that especially if you tell him you will make a WRITTEN complaint.
2 :
Could try a written complaint, maybe that's one option.
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Friday, May 7, 2010
Turkish youth in Germany
Turkish youth in Germany?
Lately, I have read many horrible (and racist) things about the Turkish community in Germany. That the Turks were in gangs, harassing people on subways and generally have lots of problems. I don't know if this is completely true or not.. all I know is that it is semi-true from the online sound of things. I just want to establish that in Australia, Turks are doing very well with the majority of students going to university, getting degrees and leading positive, fulfilling and healthy lives. My uncle is a lawyer, my aunt is a nurse, my mother an IT consultant, my father a restranteur, my grandfather an engineer and I plan on studying a BA in Journalism in the coming months. What is your view on Turkish-German youth and have you had any good/bad experiences with them? hey, I'm not saying Turks are perfect, all I'm saying is that I hear Turks feel alienated over in Germany/Netherlands/Belgium, but over here we have intergrated well into Australian society. Many of my cousins have Aussie wives. I'm just very curious as to what's happening over there, I've heard many stories
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My only direct experience with young Turkish people in Germany has been the many friendly, helpful employees and owners of businesses. In particular, there are many Döner-Kebap restaurants and stands run by young Turkish men who are friendly, non-threatening, and pleasant. As an American who speaks little to no German, I find these Turkish shopkeepers to be far more friendly and accommodating than their German counterparts. Usually there are a couple of younger Turkish boys hanging out or working at the Döner restaurants, who also strike me as friendly and nonthreatening. I feel that's generally the case when I see all varieties of Southeastern European immigrants in Germany - driving taxis, riding the subway, and wherever I encounter them around town. I think it's very similar to the situation with Latino immigrants in the United States: Some people feel uncomfortable when they encounter foreigners in their hometown, and any time they see a large group of immigrants their minds leap to ideas of gangs, crime, violence, etc. even when it couldn't be further from the truth. I see Turkish immigrants to Germany, and Mexican immigrants to the US, as people who have taken a great leap of faith to travel to a new country in search of employment and opportunity to create a better life for themselves and their families.
2 :
There is a VERY large Turkish population in Germany. It can be understandable that there are some who may behave as you say. Also, Turkish men can be very misunderstood. They all think of themselves as very attractive, and if a woman gives them any kind of attention they think this means you want their attention -- this could be perceived as harassment to others. There is a big cultural difference, and even though there are many Turks who are acclimated to their adoptive country, there will always be a slight divide and misunderstanding. Not all Turks are bad. In fact, my boyfriend is Turkish, and I find they generally treat people (women in particular) very well.
3 :
Actually what you have heard is true to a huge % of the youth.(at least in bigger cities) That isnt racist. Come to germany and go into a club..after you go out, you should get a cut near the throat and almost die(like my friend) then you think differently The funny thing: for absolute nothing..you dont need to have done anything. Actually i only know about the bigger cities..dont know about small towns But in bigger cities they normaly build ´´gangs´´ with their family and other sometimes they come with 20 men then... If you look strange at them normally then comes an invitation for a nice beating(only from the turks who feel strong alone too..not many) But normally they dont harass people in subways In general they have alots of trouble. Is it not wanting to work..not wanting to go to school or criminal activities or the things above. exceptions proof the rule Im always annoyed when a foreigner tries to say something about it and we are racist against them or so without knowing anything
4 :
i live in a small town in germany and the turks here are just like everybody else oO there are really nice people and then there are some idiots.. but it's the same with the germans.. ^^ soooo basically there are idiots in every culture, it's just that the turks stand out in germany because they often don't speak german very well. these "big-city-problems" as described in an answer above basically don't exist here in the small town =)
5 :
Well, the turkish "youth" in their middle to late 20s say it was much easier for them to integrate into German society, since there were not that many Turkish people in Germany, and they needed to interact with their German classmates and neighbors, so of course they learned the language better, did better in school, went further in school, got apprenticeships more easily (it's unfair to only put that down to language skills, though, because economy was different 10 years back, too). There were not as many Muslim prayer rooms or Moshes (Spelling??? :( Sorry.), no Turkish sport clubs, no "only women" opening hours at pools... they needed to live in a country where they needed to integrate into the existing society because there simply were not enough of them to build up the structures they were used to having. Now there are many more Muslims, not necessarily just Turkish people, in Germany, and they live in "ghettos", meaning they live in parts of the town, mostly, where there is assisted housing from the state. THis, though unwanted by the state, supports them in clinging together as a group (they are in a foreign country that dos not understand their customs and traditions, nor respect them sometimes, and many of them do not speak the language (well). Plus, the structures here often support the more fundamentalist in their believe (because the morals from the 50's and 60's are what the old men who often sit at the head of the community know and perceive as "normal", even though in their home country, those morals are outdated now), and that eases the way for fathers to dominate their families in a "traditional" way. Often the teenage sons are lambs at home, honoring their elders, being nice as pie to everyone, and than when they are out in town with their fiends, they "flip", because they need to have some sort of feeling of control over something. Harassing people, especially people who obviously don't have anything to do with their community, in such an anonymous surrounding as a subway (I guess they are not thinking of the cameras) is an easy outlet for them. There was one incident this year where three Turkish kids severely beat up an old German man in the subway because he reminded them that smoking was forbidden. A typical "I'm the old, law-abiding citizen, and you are just three youths not knowing how to accept boundaries or behave correctly". Had he been a member of the Turkish community, chances are they would have said sorry and extinguished their smokes. He wasn't, though. I'm not saying the old guy made himself a victim, but with the Turkish kids, there are mostly two sides of the medal. Which also makes it so difficult for the two cultures. Often social workers are simply told: "You don't understand. This is our culture, these are our morals, you can't come in and destroy our morals just because we live in this country." To which one becomes sometimes tempted to reply: "You can't come in and destroy our country just because you want to live with your morals!" (if you want to express it that drastically and directly). And I'm not saying Turks are villains. I have Turkish friends who went to school with me, and they are nice, generous, warm and friendly people, open and welcoming, who will explain their customs when I ask, and, though they are somewhat fundamentalist, will listen to your side of the story, too, and discuss. Both of them (she and her brother) are studying and doing well, don't live in assisted housing, have jobs and own a house/ think of building one. The daughter is married (to a Turkish guy) and has two kids (while studying), and while she is independent and modern, she loves the fact that the structures and traditions are there to support her (kids are with Grandma in "the ghetto" when Mom goes to school). At home, she speaks Turkish with her kids. One could go on talking about the real hate crimes and "honor murders" going on in Germany, but: Yes, they happen, no question about that. Do they happen often: No. I do not believe it is a common thing, I think it is a horrible way of thinking of some horrible people. There are horrible people in all parts of the world, of every religion, in every country, in all parts of society.
6 :
i am english and have lived in germany for 16yrs i live in a large city, and we have a lot of turkish people here you are right, there are a lot of gangs of youths roaming the streets, causing trouble etc etc and there are gangs of turkish youths doing this, but not just turkish, we have so many different nationalities here
7 :
Hey Kaile, people like you are not the problem --- the problem are guys not going to school, robbing, dealing etc. German government spend a lot of money to integrate foreigners to german society. But turks have in a lot of german cities their own townships and that are no go areas for the others. (I must say, that is not true for Hamburg, but if you will have problems with a young guy --- it wil be not a russian, not an african, not an asian --- it will be a turk. The real problem --- german jurisdiction is worse. You see there was a young guy --- he made 63 robberies up to the age of 14. There was a big blablabla and they send him to Turkey. At that time crime of young foreigners decreased by 18%. But some times later they let him return and one year later they send him one and a half year to prison and that is a lot for a youngster in Germany. If you are a friendly normal citizen and you have problems with another one --- I bet the other one is a Turk --- that is the problem. It is not the problem --- that there are a lot of honest Turk people ---- but who likes always be compared with criminals ---- so very much honest turks flee off the country ---- that is the other problem. In the last 20 years I had 2 problems it were problems with turks. But I also have found some turk friends.
8 :
I lived in the infamous Kreuzberg district of Berlin, Germany's capital, and must say I never felt endangerd by the Turkish Youth Gangs (well, that's exaggerated in itself: They're not much more than we were when we were young), and I'd still feel safe there. One of my best friends (Turkish, by birth, German, by nationality) keeps joking about them in his Turkish language, which I don't perfectly understand. As I lived with Turkish Youth in Berlin, I'd stick with Douglas Adams' description in the "Hitchhiker's Guide": "Mostly Harmless." That doesn't mean that they're always harmless. I'm usually harmless, too, but can arrange for a beating when racist people (what we call "neo-Nazis") come along. The Turks I know feel well integrated into our society, and those who don't should think it over. And "Islam", as I learned, is not at all a uniform religion; it has as many facets and variations as Christianity. I talked a lot with Turkish people about their religion, and it made me read the Q'ran, and I found that it is a book among others, like the Bible, or the Bhagavad-Gita. There's some wisdom in it, but in "wisdom", there's "wise", so you have to treat it wisely.
9 :
as everywhere there's some sort of alienation. minorities have the tendency to become conservative when it comes to their values. so there's both, integrated turks (insert any other minority) and the frustrated ones who seek violence (gangs, fundamentalists). though of course that goes for the frustrated germans as well (gangs, hooligans, nazis...).
10 :
There are many good answers here already. One fact still missing - the change of society and the increase of poverty. This causes people who would normally be in jobs to sit on the streets and look for excitement in their dull surrounding. This stands for some Turkish juveniles as good as for some Germans or other nations' kids. The German ones shout, how bad the Turkish, Italian, Morocco (name the countries) are. The louder they shout and write in outlets like this, the more they are heard. Still, they are not many - just noisy. And they are taken much too serious. Nevertheless, after 9/11 mistrust developed towards people with muslim religion, sad to say. This resulted into the fact, that they, of course, moved together more closely and kept to themselves. Now, if a group keeps to themselves - more mistrust develops. Plus, the old conservative rules come out stronger - i.e. Turkish girls must marry Turkish boys, etc. This again finds even less understanding in German "simple framed" heads.... All together, in the normal German life you don't really find problems. Even the little wannabe Nazi buys his "Döner" at the Turkish shop not thinking about, who is serving him. :-)
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Lately, I have read many horrible (and racist) things about the Turkish community in Germany. That the Turks were in gangs, harassing people on subways and generally have lots of problems. I don't know if this is completely true or not.. all I know is that it is semi-true from the online sound of things. I just want to establish that in Australia, Turks are doing very well with the majority of students going to university, getting degrees and leading positive, fulfilling and healthy lives. My uncle is a lawyer, my aunt is a nurse, my mother an IT consultant, my father a restranteur, my grandfather an engineer and I plan on studying a BA in Journalism in the coming months. What is your view on Turkish-German youth and have you had any good/bad experiences with them? hey, I'm not saying Turks are perfect, all I'm saying is that I hear Turks feel alienated over in Germany/Netherlands/Belgium, but over here we have intergrated well into Australian society. Many of my cousins have Aussie wives. I'm just very curious as to what's happening over there, I've heard many stories
Other - Germany - 10 Answers
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1 :
My only direct experience with young Turkish people in Germany has been the many friendly, helpful employees and owners of businesses. In particular, there are many Döner-Kebap restaurants and stands run by young Turkish men who are friendly, non-threatening, and pleasant. As an American who speaks little to no German, I find these Turkish shopkeepers to be far more friendly and accommodating than their German counterparts. Usually there are a couple of younger Turkish boys hanging out or working at the Döner restaurants, who also strike me as friendly and nonthreatening. I feel that's generally the case when I see all varieties of Southeastern European immigrants in Germany - driving taxis, riding the subway, and wherever I encounter them around town. I think it's very similar to the situation with Latino immigrants in the United States: Some people feel uncomfortable when they encounter foreigners in their hometown, and any time they see a large group of immigrants their minds leap to ideas of gangs, crime, violence, etc. even when it couldn't be further from the truth. I see Turkish immigrants to Germany, and Mexican immigrants to the US, as people who have taken a great leap of faith to travel to a new country in search of employment and opportunity to create a better life for themselves and their families.
2 :
There is a VERY large Turkish population in Germany. It can be understandable that there are some who may behave as you say. Also, Turkish men can be very misunderstood. They all think of themselves as very attractive, and if a woman gives them any kind of attention they think this means you want their attention -- this could be perceived as harassment to others. There is a big cultural difference, and even though there are many Turks who are acclimated to their adoptive country, there will always be a slight divide and misunderstanding. Not all Turks are bad. In fact, my boyfriend is Turkish, and I find they generally treat people (women in particular) very well.
3 :
Actually what you have heard is true to a huge % of the youth.(at least in bigger cities) That isnt racist. Come to germany and go into a club..after you go out, you should get a cut near the throat and almost die(like my friend) then you think differently The funny thing: for absolute nothing..you dont need to have done anything. Actually i only know about the bigger cities..dont know about small towns But in bigger cities they normaly build ´´gangs´´ with their family and other sometimes they come with 20 men then... If you look strange at them normally then comes an invitation for a nice beating(only from the turks who feel strong alone too..not many) But normally they dont harass people in subways In general they have alots of trouble. Is it not wanting to work..not wanting to go to school or criminal activities or the things above. exceptions proof the rule Im always annoyed when a foreigner tries to say something about it and we are racist against them or so without knowing anything
4 :
i live in a small town in germany and the turks here are just like everybody else oO there are really nice people and then there are some idiots.. but it's the same with the germans.. ^^ soooo basically there are idiots in every culture, it's just that the turks stand out in germany because they often don't speak german very well. these "big-city-problems" as described in an answer above basically don't exist here in the small town =)
5 :
Well, the turkish "youth" in their middle to late 20s say it was much easier for them to integrate into German society, since there were not that many Turkish people in Germany, and they needed to interact with their German classmates and neighbors, so of course they learned the language better, did better in school, went further in school, got apprenticeships more easily (it's unfair to only put that down to language skills, though, because economy was different 10 years back, too). There were not as many Muslim prayer rooms or Moshes (Spelling??? :( Sorry.), no Turkish sport clubs, no "only women" opening hours at pools... they needed to live in a country where they needed to integrate into the existing society because there simply were not enough of them to build up the structures they were used to having. Now there are many more Muslims, not necessarily just Turkish people, in Germany, and they live in "ghettos", meaning they live in parts of the town, mostly, where there is assisted housing from the state. THis, though unwanted by the state, supports them in clinging together as a group (they are in a foreign country that dos not understand their customs and traditions, nor respect them sometimes, and many of them do not speak the language (well). Plus, the structures here often support the more fundamentalist in their believe (because the morals from the 50's and 60's are what the old men who often sit at the head of the community know and perceive as "normal", even though in their home country, those morals are outdated now), and that eases the way for fathers to dominate their families in a "traditional" way. Often the teenage sons are lambs at home, honoring their elders, being nice as pie to everyone, and than when they are out in town with their fiends, they "flip", because they need to have some sort of feeling of control over something. Harassing people, especially people who obviously don't have anything to do with their community, in such an anonymous surrounding as a subway (I guess they are not thinking of the cameras) is an easy outlet for them. There was one incident this year where three Turkish kids severely beat up an old German man in the subway because he reminded them that smoking was forbidden. A typical "I'm the old, law-abiding citizen, and you are just three youths not knowing how to accept boundaries or behave correctly". Had he been a member of the Turkish community, chances are they would have said sorry and extinguished their smokes. He wasn't, though. I'm not saying the old guy made himself a victim, but with the Turkish kids, there are mostly two sides of the medal. Which also makes it so difficult for the two cultures. Often social workers are simply told: "You don't understand. This is our culture, these are our morals, you can't come in and destroy our morals just because we live in this country." To which one becomes sometimes tempted to reply: "You can't come in and destroy our country just because you want to live with your morals!" (if you want to express it that drastically and directly). And I'm not saying Turks are villains. I have Turkish friends who went to school with me, and they are nice, generous, warm and friendly people, open and welcoming, who will explain their customs when I ask, and, though they are somewhat fundamentalist, will listen to your side of the story, too, and discuss. Both of them (she and her brother) are studying and doing well, don't live in assisted housing, have jobs and own a house/ think of building one. The daughter is married (to a Turkish guy) and has two kids (while studying), and while she is independent and modern, she loves the fact that the structures and traditions are there to support her (kids are with Grandma in "the ghetto" when Mom goes to school). At home, she speaks Turkish with her kids. One could go on talking about the real hate crimes and "honor murders" going on in Germany, but: Yes, they happen, no question about that. Do they happen often: No. I do not believe it is a common thing, I think it is a horrible way of thinking of some horrible people. There are horrible people in all parts of the world, of every religion, in every country, in all parts of society.
6 :
i am english and have lived in germany for 16yrs i live in a large city, and we have a lot of turkish people here you are right, there are a lot of gangs of youths roaming the streets, causing trouble etc etc and there are gangs of turkish youths doing this, but not just turkish, we have so many different nationalities here
7 :
Hey Kaile, people like you are not the problem --- the problem are guys not going to school, robbing, dealing etc. German government spend a lot of money to integrate foreigners to german society. But turks have in a lot of german cities their own townships and that are no go areas for the others. (I must say, that is not true for Hamburg, but if you will have problems with a young guy --- it wil be not a russian, not an african, not an asian --- it will be a turk. The real problem --- german jurisdiction is worse. You see there was a young guy --- he made 63 robberies up to the age of 14. There was a big blablabla and they send him to Turkey. At that time crime of young foreigners decreased by 18%. But some times later they let him return and one year later they send him one and a half year to prison and that is a lot for a youngster in Germany. If you are a friendly normal citizen and you have problems with another one --- I bet the other one is a Turk --- that is the problem. It is not the problem --- that there are a lot of honest Turk people ---- but who likes always be compared with criminals ---- so very much honest turks flee off the country ---- that is the other problem. In the last 20 years I had 2 problems it were problems with turks. But I also have found some turk friends.
8 :
I lived in the infamous Kreuzberg district of Berlin, Germany's capital, and must say I never felt endangerd by the Turkish Youth Gangs (well, that's exaggerated in itself: They're not much more than we were when we were young), and I'd still feel safe there. One of my best friends (Turkish, by birth, German, by nationality) keeps joking about them in his Turkish language, which I don't perfectly understand. As I lived with Turkish Youth in Berlin, I'd stick with Douglas Adams' description in the "Hitchhiker's Guide": "Mostly Harmless." That doesn't mean that they're always harmless. I'm usually harmless, too, but can arrange for a beating when racist people (what we call "neo-Nazis") come along. The Turks I know feel well integrated into our society, and those who don't should think it over. And "Islam", as I learned, is not at all a uniform religion; it has as many facets and variations as Christianity. I talked a lot with Turkish people about their religion, and it made me read the Q'ran, and I found that it is a book among others, like the Bible, or the Bhagavad-Gita. There's some wisdom in it, but in "wisdom", there's "wise", so you have to treat it wisely.
9 :
as everywhere there's some sort of alienation. minorities have the tendency to become conservative when it comes to their values. so there's both, integrated turks (insert any other minority) and the frustrated ones who seek violence (gangs, fundamentalists). though of course that goes for the frustrated germans as well (gangs, hooligans, nazis...).
10 :
There are many good answers here already. One fact still missing - the change of society and the increase of poverty. This causes people who would normally be in jobs to sit on the streets and look for excitement in their dull surrounding. This stands for some Turkish juveniles as good as for some Germans or other nations' kids. The German ones shout, how bad the Turkish, Italian, Morocco (name the countries) are. The louder they shout and write in outlets like this, the more they are heard. Still, they are not many - just noisy. And they are taken much too serious. Nevertheless, after 9/11 mistrust developed towards people with muslim religion, sad to say. This resulted into the fact, that they, of course, moved together more closely and kept to themselves. Now, if a group keeps to themselves - more mistrust develops. Plus, the old conservative rules come out stronger - i.e. Turkish girls must marry Turkish boys, etc. This again finds even less understanding in German "simple framed" heads.... All together, in the normal German life you don't really find problems. Even the little wannabe Nazi buys his "Döner" at the Turkish shop not thinking about, who is serving him. :-)
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Saturday, May 1, 2010
Is it likely to have more then one premature baby
Is it likely to have more then one premature baby?
My first born was 10 weeks early. My husband and I are trying for #2. Because she was so early, I am worried that the next one will be also. I was never told why she was so early. I think it was an infection of some type or maybe an incompetent cervix. None of the nurses or Dr.s told me. (I had her in Germany and don't speak German very well so the language barrier was very difficult). Any ideas?
Pregnancy - 8 Answers
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1 :
was your baby ok? just because your first was early, doesn't mean your 2nd will be. i watch alot of baby delivery shows!!! but it would help if you knew "WHY" your 1st baby was premature.
2 :
Dont worry it was happened due to some raeson or infection. But it means not this that it will go on everytime. So be happy and best luck :-)
3 :
Both my girls were born early. I went into labor at 31 weeks with the 1st one, but they held her off until 32 weeks. The 2nd one came at 33 weeks. They never gave me any reason as to why either. Didn't even seemed concerned about it (military hospitals might be the reason). I knew that my 2nd one was going to be the same. The whole pregnacy went the same, and even though no dr. would believe me they did a few internal sonagrams and said I'd be full term. But I wasn't. You'll know, and you just be prepared and continously stress to your dr's how you feel to get them ready.
4 :
you need to ask your DOCTOR.
5 :
I don't think you would have another early labour, if you are worried go and see your GP and explain your last labour to them. They may even be able to access your medical records from Germany and tell you exactly why it happened last time. Keep in mind sometimes it can happen for no obvious reason.
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some people do have their babies early and other times the prematurity is due to something separate so unless you know why your first was born premature it'd be hard to know. your doctor will probably classify you as high risk because of the first being so early and you'll be watched closely.
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I wish I knew the answer to this. Both my daughters were considered "premature" My first was 3 weeks early (and it seems strange thats considered technically preemie, but whatever, lol) My second was 4 weeks early. There weren't complications in either case. And their development and weights were that of full term babies. My midwife and doctor told me that some people just "bake" babies faster, lol. But 10 weeks... If I were you I would be asking what had made you go into labor so early so hopefully you can do what it takes to lower your risk I'd recommend drinking red raspberry leaf tea in pregnancy. It strengthens your pelvic and uterine muscles and is also extremely healthy for you and your baby in a hundred other ways. Do everything you can to make your pregnancy a really healthy one, then if your baby is early again, at least they will be as healthy as possible. Also, did you have group b strep, and was it your water breaking that sent you into labor? Having group b strep can cause the membranes to rupture early, which was the case with my 2nd daughter.
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it depends on the situation. what is the reason you had a premature birth at your 1st? were you sick that time or having infections? or is it because of stress? some mothers tend to have high risk pregnancies and they are not conscious about it that they still starin themselves so they tend to have premature births. some mothers are already having their babies very low very early yet they still strain themselves. i knew someone who is carrying her child very low at 33 weeks vet she still insisted on carrying 2 5-gallon water containers that are full for about 700 meters on a slope of 30 degrees everyday and she ended up having her baby at 34 weeks. sometimes it is how you are aware of your condition and how you deal with it. if you know you are having a high risk pregnancy, never tire and stress yourself and having children in full term will be easy...
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My first born was 10 weeks early. My husband and I are trying for #2. Because she was so early, I am worried that the next one will be also. I was never told why she was so early. I think it was an infection of some type or maybe an incompetent cervix. None of the nurses or Dr.s told me. (I had her in Germany and don't speak German very well so the language barrier was very difficult). Any ideas?
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was your baby ok? just because your first was early, doesn't mean your 2nd will be. i watch alot of baby delivery shows!!! but it would help if you knew "WHY" your 1st baby was premature.
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Dont worry it was happened due to some raeson or infection. But it means not this that it will go on everytime. So be happy and best luck :-)
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Both my girls were born early. I went into labor at 31 weeks with the 1st one, but they held her off until 32 weeks. The 2nd one came at 33 weeks. They never gave me any reason as to why either. Didn't even seemed concerned about it (military hospitals might be the reason). I knew that my 2nd one was going to be the same. The whole pregnacy went the same, and even though no dr. would believe me they did a few internal sonagrams and said I'd be full term. But I wasn't. You'll know, and you just be prepared and continously stress to your dr's how you feel to get them ready.
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you need to ask your DOCTOR.
5 :
I don't think you would have another early labour, if you are worried go and see your GP and explain your last labour to them. They may even be able to access your medical records from Germany and tell you exactly why it happened last time. Keep in mind sometimes it can happen for no obvious reason.
6 :
some people do have their babies early and other times the prematurity is due to something separate so unless you know why your first was born premature it'd be hard to know. your doctor will probably classify you as high risk because of the first being so early and you'll be watched closely.
7 :
I wish I knew the answer to this. Both my daughters were considered "premature" My first was 3 weeks early (and it seems strange thats considered technically preemie, but whatever, lol) My second was 4 weeks early. There weren't complications in either case. And their development and weights were that of full term babies. My midwife and doctor told me that some people just "bake" babies faster, lol. But 10 weeks... If I were you I would be asking what had made you go into labor so early so hopefully you can do what it takes to lower your risk I'd recommend drinking red raspberry leaf tea in pregnancy. It strengthens your pelvic and uterine muscles and is also extremely healthy for you and your baby in a hundred other ways. Do everything you can to make your pregnancy a really healthy one, then if your baby is early again, at least they will be as healthy as possible. Also, did you have group b strep, and was it your water breaking that sent you into labor? Having group b strep can cause the membranes to rupture early, which was the case with my 2nd daughter.
8 :
it depends on the situation. what is the reason you had a premature birth at your 1st? were you sick that time or having infections? or is it because of stress? some mothers tend to have high risk pregnancies and they are not conscious about it that they still starin themselves so they tend to have premature births. some mothers are already having their babies very low very early yet they still strain themselves. i knew someone who is carrying her child very low at 33 weeks vet she still insisted on carrying 2 5-gallon water containers that are full for about 700 meters on a slope of 30 degrees everyday and she ended up having her baby at 34 weeks. sometimes it is how you are aware of your condition and how you deal with it. if you know you are having a high risk pregnancy, never tire and stress yourself and having children in full term will be easy...
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