i'm going to vent so if you would like to offer some advice please do, if not please save the sarcasm?
Okay so i feel like the biggest spoiled brat in the world, believe me, complaining about my life right now, like i totally completely understand, ppl are starving, ppl are dying, i have it sooo fricken GOOD! but i just CANNOT live like this anymore, and there are just ppl in my life that make me so angry, i have just had enough it all started when i was a happy, energetic, carefree 3 year old, my grandpa had a stroke and my family and I took care of him for over 10 years before he died a couple years ago. Yes not my 4 other aunts and uncles/ daughters and sons of my grandfather but just my dad. So there goes any childhood memories i would have had with a father. He basically sacrificed his whole life, his own family, his job ( we are currently on medicare-- anothe story comming up soon dealing with my grandmother) to take care of his dad. Anyways currently after all the trauma of the incident after incident of my grandpa almost dying, he finally did...and now we inch closer to the conflicts of today. My grandmother, a strong willed,stubburn little character ( i should tell u a little back story -- just a little background of my grandparents -- they were kidnapped as teenagers, u kno as laborers for da nazis during WWII in Germany) anyways back to the now. okay so of course history will now repeat itself and my grandmother will now develop dimentia and move in with us -- not with her retired children whose kids are already moved out and starting their own families, but again affecting the lives of kids currently still trying to make it through highschool and of a father who again, can't even provide for his own family because of all this I love my grandma, i try to sit and talk to her, at times she's okay but then she goes nuts and screams at you to get out our "her" (our) house. I KNOW she has dimentia but the emotional, mental exhaustion of just everything ( this is totally not even a fraction of the whole story -- im shortening it up for ya) is just overwhelming, i have to leave the house so she calms down-- its a small house i cant just ignore her, i cant study, get good grades, i've been failing since she moved in. cant eat ( sick of being anorexic), cant sleep ( she talk to herself all through the night) and most of all, all my dad cares about is my grandma, -- he absolutely refuses to put her in a nursing home even though every doctor friend we know is seriously requiring us to, would rather divorce my mother ( they never got along but stay together for us (their kids) so our family "looks" normal, still we would be so much better off, everyone would be happier) it doesn't matter if im sick -- but thats isn't even it, like i just wish he'd care ( i get severe periods where i pass out and overheat, ( my dad will have the heat all up in the SUMMER for my grandmother b/c of course she has to be cold) i just CANT live here, but wut am i gonna do? im only 15 another example, my grandma has a dog (tht of course i have to take care of, and she doesn't let anyone touch if she can help it) -- now this dog is DEPRESSED, locked up in a cage all night and day and if he makes ONE little sound my dad will beat the hell out of him and spray him till he is soaked and WILL NOT even let me take him out --( and this is even when my grandma isn't sleeping) my dad is just SOO unbelievably overprotective over his mother -- she's like his daughter, his wife, his life, nothing else matters) no matter what i do, its bad, wrong, disrespectful, if i talk, im "talking back" if i dont talk im "ignoring my parents" i just get yelled at all the time for nothing, trying to study, i dont talk drugs, smoke, or ask for ANYTHING like other kids do ( i seriously feel guilty when i need money for an english book cuz i kno my parents are broke), i just want a home again and not have to be a hobo, stranded at school till 7 or having to leave my house and not be able to get good grades and its not even my fault, its just not fair :/ is it? anyways im going to end this, its getting too crazy, i just ask, with such a busy summer coming up -- ap assignments, summer courses, summer job, and shit, i already CANNOT study for exams right now and i obviously cant drive, wut the hell am i going to do my grandmother moved in 7 months ago, my grandfather died 2 years ago
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thats a fucking long ass question
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that is horrible....you have to work through it...I will explain. I have CP, Mild Autism and I am bi-polar...put simple..I have a lot of problems. It does not bother me at all. I put in the necessary work to get through. What you have to do is probably one the things you are doing...stay out of the house. Try to get friends houses to go over to. Hopefully your parents will let you do this. If not...go to a counselor at school and talk to them about this issue. I am not a psychologist nor a social worker, so I don't have a clue what options you have...but remember, options always exist. always..trust me
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wooww..... this is a very long story, but your actual problem. ii suggest you tell you mother everything what you have been telling us so that she can talk to your dad and compromise or do something about it. ii have heard that grand parents love their grand children more than their real children. i think the issue here is that your dad not being able to see any further than what he thinks. there is noone to tell him that he may be hurting someones feelings. Education is extremelyy important therefore tell it to your mother who must talk to your dad about it because that way, this family will not survive. your grand parents probably just do not want to leave the home and they think that their son would take care of them as they took care of your dad when he was a child and growing up. This however, does not mean that your education is sacrificed in the name of your grand parents. i agree they are your dad's parents but every person has a conscience in them that needs to be controlled. What you could do is to leave this yahoo question on the computer/ laptop and if your dad goes on the computer, he would see the question and understand what you are going through. The only way for you right now is really to somehow show this to your dad. i suggest the next time your grand ma or grand pa scream at you, just dont leave the home and let them deal with their own issues. now i am going to suggest something that i personally would not do, but many have done: to call the police and bs how your grand parents hurt you or domestic violence occured. This is a way you could get them out. well since you need to study, as them to be quiet. you do not need to be the good person anymore. stand up for yourself. but really think about it before you do anything. how would you feel if your children did this to your parents?? i am sure you would not like it. you could also call an animal shelter home (there are many names for them). i suggest that therapy may be eventually required somewhere. the best thing you could do right now is to talk to your guidance counsellor because they would be able to suggest any good ideas. Also try calling the "kids help phone". they do not ask you name, but you tell them your problem and they suggest actual things you can do. I mean i believe that anything is bettter than just accepting these facts. do you have any siblings? if yes then get together and speak up for yourself. and please: you need to take the dog out of there before its too late. aww poor dog รข™¥. may god bless him and protect him from your dad and your grandma. oh so she did not move in yet? if she did not then prevent your dad from letting her enter your home. i know this is going to be extremelyy hard but you have to do something about it. hope this helped you come up with your own plan. (:
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