My boyfriend was injured in Iraq...and is on major pain meds..help me understand!!?
Ok...So my boyfriend was in Iraq. He volunteered for a mission and was helping his buddy load his truck. A connex fell on his arm smashing it and breaking all the bones in his hand and forearm...so he was flown out to Germany and had some surgeries there and then they sent him to TX to some specialists....His room mate wrote me on myspace to let me know what happened and my bf called me the next day to make sure i knew since he hadnt talked to his room mate..he was in a lot of pain...obviously. But anyway its been about a week since the whole thing happened and i have talked to him twice in that entire time...the second time mainly because his nurse in germany said he wouldnt stop talkin about me so she helped him get my number off his yahoo where he had it saved and gave him a phone to call me...he told me he was thinkin he was going to be addicted to pain meds after he got home and he just kept saying my arm is destroyed...and baby i miss you...he promised to call me the next day when he left germany and when he got to tx this was last thursday..and i havent heard from him since.... Our relationship is still pretty new.....but we did seem to have a bond..i know hes going to call me eventually but I am having such a hard time understanding and coping right now...I miss him so much..i hope hes doing alright and i dont understand how he could tell me he was going to call me 4 days ago and i havent heard from him since when he knows how worried i am.... For some reason..I his ex of 8 years seems to be tryin to get back in his life and i feel like a trauma like this might make him go back to something from his past...I dont know mayb he hasnt called cause hes so drugged up..i dont know i have never been on pain meds before...i think hes on morphine too..but can someone help me i am so stressed i miss him so much and things were going so good.....he always told me he would wait forever for me..and i certainly can wait for him..but i just want to understand..can meds really make you that out of it that you forget to do something you say to someone you care about...and also i have never broken a bone...i was wondering how painful what hes going thru might be..they said it would have been better had he lost his arm completely... Thanks people sorry its so long! no he has an ex that he was with 8 years...we met about 4 months ago and have been official for about a month.....
Injuries - 4 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
he's probably so sedated with medication that he's unable to call you. the side effects of those meds could be effecting his memory. He may be stationed in like an I.C.U. and not able to use a phone for contact. รข—™
2 :
im confuzzled, so hes your ex of 8 years ago but your in a new relaship? Edit: ok i get it now, in that case what Boredinn said.
3 :
Considering he just had a near death experience don't you think you're being a bit selfish? He's in a hospital, he's drugged up and I'm sure there's probably a chance he could lose him arm. I think you should pray for him, but let it be. You can't begin to imagine what he has seen and is going through. The last thing he needs to be worried about is a needy girlfriend. (no offense) If he calls again, let him know you're there for him, but don't put any pressure on him. The last thing he needs right now is more stress.
4 :
HE LOVES YOU. Don't worry about his ex hun.. His injury won't make him stop loving you & leave you..
Read nore discussion :
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Sunday, November 14, 2010
My Soldier was injured in Iraq...now....I am so confused
My Soldier was injured in Iraq...now....I am so confused..?
Ok...So my boyfriend was in Iraq. He volunteered for a mission and was helping his buddy load his truck. A connex fell on his arm smashing it and breaking all the bones in his hand and forearm...so he was flown out to Germany and had some surgeries there and then they sent him to TX to some specialists....His room mate wrote me on myspace to let me know what happened and my bf called me the next day to make sure i knew since he hadnt talked to his room mate..he was in a lot of pain...obviously. But anyway its been about a week since the whole thing happened and i have talked to him twice in that entire time...the second time mainly because his nurse in germany said he wouldnt stop talkin about me so she helped him get my number off his yahoo where he had it saved and gave him a phone to call me...he told me he was thinkin he was going to be addicted to pain meds after he got home and he just kept saying my arm is destroyed...and baby i miss you...he promised to call me the next day when he left germany and when he got to tx this was last thursday..and i havent heard from him since.... Our relationship is still pretty new.....but we did seem to have a bond..i know hes going to call me eventually but I am having such a hard time understanding and coping right now...I miss him so much..i hope hes doing alright and i dont understand how he could tell me he was going to call me 4 days ago and i havent heard from him since when he knows how worried i am.... For some reason..I his ex of 8 years seems to be tryin to get back in his life and i feel like a trauma like this might make him go back to something from his past...I dont know mayb he hasnt called cause hes so drugged up..i dont know i have never been on pain meds before...i think hes on morphine too..but can someone help me i am so stressed i miss him so much and things were going so good.....he always told me he would wait forever for me..and i certainly can wait for him..but i just want to understand..can meds really make you that out of it that you forget to do something you say to someone you care about...and also i have never broken a bone...i was wondering how painful what hes going thru might be..they said it would have been better had he lost his arm completely... Thanks people sorry its so long!
Singles & Dating - 7 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
See if you can get in touch with the hospital he's in to speak to him. Contact someone in his unit to see if they know the number.
2 :
well i would suggest waiting for him to contact u ; unless u know w here he is at and u can call him. i deal with people all the time who are hooked on pain meds and its not a good thing ;so just wait it out
3 :
If he's on lots on drugs for pain, he probably forgot to call you. Morphine does that to you. He'll call you eventually.. don't worry.
4 :
you be there for him no matter what! i don't care how new the relationship is or how long it takes him to call you or what reason he has for not calling sooner. don't get mad, don't argue, don't make him feel bad in any way. just support him however you can and let him know you are there when he needs you. this is a very tough situation for him. you guys may not end up being together forever but you never know what will happen to him tomorrow and he needs you to care.
5 :
wow well try to understand I mean he must be really drugged right now because of all the pain.. or maybe he just hasnt been able to get a phone.. which could be a strong possibility, calm down, try to relax, but try to call him. look for him, and dont let his ex get back into his life! if you love him fight for him girl! and most importantly give him allll the love and support! he will really needed! believe me its not a nice feeling to broke a bones.... and it must be HORRIBLE to broke ur bones like he did! so yea be patient, caring and lovin.. if ya havent know anything from him in the past 4 days, theyn YOU look for him!
6 :
well, with the military it is hard to call each day and if he is in trauma he may not be able to call you. just be strong. things will work out. just email him and let him know that you are thinking about him and miss him dearly. if able, get in contact with his roommate and have him try and get a message to your man. best of luck.
7 :
don't worry he will call you he is just going through allot and being on meds he isn't himself just be patient and try to understand what he's going through and i really don't think he'll go back to his ex she's an ex for a reason especially since he said he would wait forever for you when he calls just tell him how you feel that you miss him and you will be there for him and everything will work out just fine
Read more discussion :
Ok...So my boyfriend was in Iraq. He volunteered for a mission and was helping his buddy load his truck. A connex fell on his arm smashing it and breaking all the bones in his hand and forearm...so he was flown out to Germany and had some surgeries there and then they sent him to TX to some specialists....His room mate wrote me on myspace to let me know what happened and my bf called me the next day to make sure i knew since he hadnt talked to his room mate..he was in a lot of pain...obviously. But anyway its been about a week since the whole thing happened and i have talked to him twice in that entire time...the second time mainly because his nurse in germany said he wouldnt stop talkin about me so she helped him get my number off his yahoo where he had it saved and gave him a phone to call me...he told me he was thinkin he was going to be addicted to pain meds after he got home and he just kept saying my arm is destroyed...and baby i miss you...he promised to call me the next day when he left germany and when he got to tx this was last thursday..and i havent heard from him since.... Our relationship is still pretty new.....but we did seem to have a bond..i know hes going to call me eventually but I am having such a hard time understanding and coping right now...I miss him so much..i hope hes doing alright and i dont understand how he could tell me he was going to call me 4 days ago and i havent heard from him since when he knows how worried i am.... For some reason..I his ex of 8 years seems to be tryin to get back in his life and i feel like a trauma like this might make him go back to something from his past...I dont know mayb he hasnt called cause hes so drugged up..i dont know i have never been on pain meds before...i think hes on morphine too..but can someone help me i am so stressed i miss him so much and things were going so good.....he always told me he would wait forever for me..and i certainly can wait for him..but i just want to understand..can meds really make you that out of it that you forget to do something you say to someone you care about...and also i have never broken a bone...i was wondering how painful what hes going thru might be..they said it would have been better had he lost his arm completely... Thanks people sorry its so long!
Singles & Dating - 7 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
See if you can get in touch with the hospital he's in to speak to him. Contact someone in his unit to see if they know the number.
2 :
well i would suggest waiting for him to contact u ; unless u know w here he is at and u can call him. i deal with people all the time who are hooked on pain meds and its not a good thing ;so just wait it out
3 :
If he's on lots on drugs for pain, he probably forgot to call you. Morphine does that to you. He'll call you eventually.. don't worry.
4 :
you be there for him no matter what! i don't care how new the relationship is or how long it takes him to call you or what reason he has for not calling sooner. don't get mad, don't argue, don't make him feel bad in any way. just support him however you can and let him know you are there when he needs you. this is a very tough situation for him. you guys may not end up being together forever but you never know what will happen to him tomorrow and he needs you to care.
5 :
wow well try to understand I mean he must be really drugged right now because of all the pain.. or maybe he just hasnt been able to get a phone.. which could be a strong possibility, calm down, try to relax, but try to call him. look for him, and dont let his ex get back into his life! if you love him fight for him girl! and most importantly give him allll the love and support! he will really needed! believe me its not a nice feeling to broke a bones.... and it must be HORRIBLE to broke ur bones like he did! so yea be patient, caring and lovin.. if ya havent know anything from him in the past 4 days, theyn YOU look for him!
6 :
well, with the military it is hard to call each day and if he is in trauma he may not be able to call you. just be strong. things will work out. just email him and let him know that you are thinking about him and miss him dearly. if able, get in contact with his roommate and have him try and get a message to your man. best of luck.
7 :
don't worry he will call you he is just going through allot and being on meds he isn't himself just be patient and try to understand what he's going through and i really don't think he'll go back to his ex she's an ex for a reason especially since he said he would wait forever for you when he calls just tell him how you feel that you miss him and you will be there for him and everything will work out just fine
Read more discussion :
Sunday, November 7, 2010
Filipinos
Filipinos:?
Please read this essay written by a Korean student studying here in the Philippines. ..nakakalungkot na we are partly to blame sa sitwasyon san Pinas...but i strongly believe there is still hope for the Philippines. .. The message goes: As you know, we have plenty of Koreans currently studying in the Philippines to take advantage of our cheaper tuition fees and learn English at the same time. This is an essay written by a Korean student i want to share with you. (Never mind the grammar; it's the CONTENT that counts ) MY SHORT ESSAY ABOUT THE PHILIPPINES Jaeyoun Kim Filipinos always complain about the corruption in the Philippines . Do you really think the corruption is the problem of the Philippines ? I do not think so. I strongly believe that the problem is the lack of love for the Philippines . Let me first talk about my country, Korea . It might help you understand my point. After the Korean War, South Korea was one of the poorest countries in the world. Koreans had to start from scratch because entire country was destroyed after the Korean War, and we had no natural resources. Koreans used to talk about the Philippines , for Filipinos were very rich in Asia . We envy Filipinos. Koreans really wanted to be well off like Filipinos. Many Koreans died of famine. My father & brother also died because of famine. Korean government was very corrupt and is still very corrupt beyond your imagination, but Korea was able to develop dramatically because Koreans really did their best for the common good with their heart burning with patriotism. Koreans did not work just for themselves but also for their neighborhood and country. Education inspired young men with the spirit of patriotism. 40 years ago, President Park took over the government to reform Korea . He tried to borrow money from other countries, but it was not possible to get a loan and attract a foreign investment because the economic situation of South Korea was so bad. Korea had only three factories. So, President Park sent many mine workers and nurses to Germany so that they could send money to Korea to build a factory. They had to go through horrible experience. In 1964, President Park visited Germany to borrow money. Hundred of Koreans in Germany came to the airport to welcome him and cried there as they saw the President Park . They asked to him, "President, when can we be well off?" That was the only question everyone asked to him. President Park cried with them and promised them that Korea would be well off if everyone works hard for Korea , and the President of Germany got the strong impression on them and lent money to Korea . So, President Park was able to build many factories in Korea . He always asked Koreans to love their country from their heart. Many Korean scientists and engineers in the USA came back to Korea to help developing country because they wanted their country to be well off. Though they received very small salary, they did their best for Korea . They always hoped that their children would live in well off country. My parents always brought me to the places where poor and physically handicapped people live. They wanted me to understand their life and help them. I also worked for Catholic Church when I was in the army. The only thing I learned from Catholic Church was that we have to love our neighborhood. And, I have loved my neighborhood. Have you cried for the Philippines? I have cried for my country several times. I also cried for the Philippines because of so many poor people. I have been to the New Bilibid prison. What made me sad in the prison were the prisoners who do not have any love for their country. They go to mass and work for Church. They pray everyday. However, they do not love the Philippines . I talked to two prisoners at the maximum-security compound, and both of them said that they would leave the Philippines right after they are released from the prison. They said that they would start a new life in other countries and never come back to the Philippines . Many Koreans have a great love for Korea so that we were able to share our wealth with our neighborhood. The owners of factory and company were distributed their profit to their employees fairly so that employees could buy what they needed and saved money for the future and their children. When I was in Korea , I had a very strong faith and wanted to be a priest.. However, when I came to the Philippines , I completely lost my faith. I was very confused when I saw many unbelievable situations in the Philippines . Street kids always make me sad, and I see them everyday. The Philippines is the only Catholic country in Asia , but there are too many poor people here. People go to church every Sunday to pray, but nothing has been changed. My parents came to the Philippines last week and saw this situation. They told me that Korea was much poorer than the present Philippines when they were young. They are so sorry that there are so many beggars and street kids. When we went to Pasangjan, I forced my parents to take a boat because it would fun. However, they were not happy after taking a boat. They said that they would not take the boat a gain because they were sympathized the boatmen, for the boatmen were very poor and had a small frame. Most of people just took a boat and enjoyed it. But, my parents did not enjoy it because of love for them. My mother who has been working for Catholic Church since I was very young told me that if we just go to mass without changing ourselves, we are not Catholic indeed. Faith should come with action. She added that I have to love Filipinos and do good things for them because all of us are same and have received a great love from God. I want Filipinos to love their neighborhood and country as much as they love God so that the Philippines will be well off. I am sure that love is the keyword, which Filipinos should remember. We cannot change the sinful structure at once. It should start from person. Love must start in everybody, in a s mall scale and have to grow. A lot of things happen if we open up to love. Let's put away our prejudices and look at our worries with our new eyes. I discover that every person is worthy to be loved. Trust in love, because it makes changes possible. Love changes you and me. It changes people, contexts and relationships. It changes the world. Please love your neighborhood and country. Jesus Christ said that whatever we do to others we do to Him. In the Philippines , there is God for people who are abused and abandoned. There is God who is crying for love. If you have a child, teach them how to love the Philippines . Teach them why they have to love their neighborhood and country. You already know that God also will be very happy if you love others. That's all I really want to ask you Filipinos.
Other - Society & Culture - 3 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
Wow who ever wrote this essay has very kind heart and its one of the best I ever heard.
2 :
Hi..pls post this on Y/A Phils http://answers.yahoo.com/dir/;_ylt=AqIgT6arDoEJb7AcbkcWAg4K7RR.;_ylv=3?link=list&sid=396545493 ...Im sure alot of Filipinos will answer this... honestly the writer has a point...kinda left me stunned though, the way he sees Phils..but i dont blame him bec it is a reality. thanks for posting..
3 :
i actually cried while reading this essay. he has a point. the writer just doesn't know how to say it in accordance with the words he will use but definitely he is right. i just realize that many filipinos are working abroad and settle down there..why not go back to the phils? i think the writer is really a good man. why did he wrote that essay? to let filipinos know that WE should love our country. thanks for posting this.
Read more discussion :
Please read this essay written by a Korean student studying here in the Philippines. ..nakakalungkot na we are partly to blame sa sitwasyon san Pinas...but i strongly believe there is still hope for the Philippines. .. The message goes: As you know, we have plenty of Koreans currently studying in the Philippines to take advantage of our cheaper tuition fees and learn English at the same time. This is an essay written by a Korean student i want to share with you. (Never mind the grammar; it's the CONTENT that counts ) MY SHORT ESSAY ABOUT THE PHILIPPINES Jaeyoun Kim Filipinos always complain about the corruption in the Philippines . Do you really think the corruption is the problem of the Philippines ? I do not think so. I strongly believe that the problem is the lack of love for the Philippines . Let me first talk about my country, Korea . It might help you understand my point. After the Korean War, South Korea was one of the poorest countries in the world. Koreans had to start from scratch because entire country was destroyed after the Korean War, and we had no natural resources. Koreans used to talk about the Philippines , for Filipinos were very rich in Asia . We envy Filipinos. Koreans really wanted to be well off like Filipinos. Many Koreans died of famine. My father & brother also died because of famine. Korean government was very corrupt and is still very corrupt beyond your imagination, but Korea was able to develop dramatically because Koreans really did their best for the common good with their heart burning with patriotism. Koreans did not work just for themselves but also for their neighborhood and country. Education inspired young men with the spirit of patriotism. 40 years ago, President Park took over the government to reform Korea . He tried to borrow money from other countries, but it was not possible to get a loan and attract a foreign investment because the economic situation of South Korea was so bad. Korea had only three factories. So, President Park sent many mine workers and nurses to Germany so that they could send money to Korea to build a factory. They had to go through horrible experience. In 1964, President Park visited Germany to borrow money. Hundred of Koreans in Germany came to the airport to welcome him and cried there as they saw the President Park . They asked to him, "President, when can we be well off?" That was the only question everyone asked to him. President Park cried with them and promised them that Korea would be well off if everyone works hard for Korea , and the President of Germany got the strong impression on them and lent money to Korea . So, President Park was able to build many factories in Korea . He always asked Koreans to love their country from their heart. Many Korean scientists and engineers in the USA came back to Korea to help developing country because they wanted their country to be well off. Though they received very small salary, they did their best for Korea . They always hoped that their children would live in well off country. My parents always brought me to the places where poor and physically handicapped people live. They wanted me to understand their life and help them. I also worked for Catholic Church when I was in the army. The only thing I learned from Catholic Church was that we have to love our neighborhood. And, I have loved my neighborhood. Have you cried for the Philippines? I have cried for my country several times. I also cried for the Philippines because of so many poor people. I have been to the New Bilibid prison. What made me sad in the prison were the prisoners who do not have any love for their country. They go to mass and work for Church. They pray everyday. However, they do not love the Philippines . I talked to two prisoners at the maximum-security compound, and both of them said that they would leave the Philippines right after they are released from the prison. They said that they would start a new life in other countries and never come back to the Philippines . Many Koreans have a great love for Korea so that we were able to share our wealth with our neighborhood. The owners of factory and company were distributed their profit to their employees fairly so that employees could buy what they needed and saved money for the future and their children. When I was in Korea , I had a very strong faith and wanted to be a priest.. However, when I came to the Philippines , I completely lost my faith. I was very confused when I saw many unbelievable situations in the Philippines . Street kids always make me sad, and I see them everyday. The Philippines is the only Catholic country in Asia , but there are too many poor people here. People go to church every Sunday to pray, but nothing has been changed. My parents came to the Philippines last week and saw this situation. They told me that Korea was much poorer than the present Philippines when they were young. They are so sorry that there are so many beggars and street kids. When we went to Pasangjan, I forced my parents to take a boat because it would fun. However, they were not happy after taking a boat. They said that they would not take the boat a gain because they were sympathized the boatmen, for the boatmen were very poor and had a small frame. Most of people just took a boat and enjoyed it. But, my parents did not enjoy it because of love for them. My mother who has been working for Catholic Church since I was very young told me that if we just go to mass without changing ourselves, we are not Catholic indeed. Faith should come with action. She added that I have to love Filipinos and do good things for them because all of us are same and have received a great love from God. I want Filipinos to love their neighborhood and country as much as they love God so that the Philippines will be well off. I am sure that love is the keyword, which Filipinos should remember. We cannot change the sinful structure at once. It should start from person. Love must start in everybody, in a s mall scale and have to grow. A lot of things happen if we open up to love. Let's put away our prejudices and look at our worries with our new eyes. I discover that every person is worthy to be loved. Trust in love, because it makes changes possible. Love changes you and me. It changes people, contexts and relationships. It changes the world. Please love your neighborhood and country. Jesus Christ said that whatever we do to others we do to Him. In the Philippines , there is God for people who are abused and abandoned. There is God who is crying for love. If you have a child, teach them how to love the Philippines . Teach them why they have to love their neighborhood and country. You already know that God also will be very happy if you love others. That's all I really want to ask you Filipinos.
Other - Society & Culture - 3 Answers
Random Answers, Critics, Comments, Opinions :
1 :
Wow who ever wrote this essay has very kind heart and its one of the best I ever heard.
2 :
Hi..pls post this on Y/A Phils http://answers.yahoo.com/dir/;_ylt=AqIgT6arDoEJb7AcbkcWAg4K7RR.;_ylv=3?link=list&sid=396545493 ...Im sure alot of Filipinos will answer this... honestly the writer has a point...kinda left me stunned though, the way he sees Phils..but i dont blame him bec it is a reality. thanks for posting..
3 :
i actually cried while reading this essay. he has a point. the writer just doesn't know how to say it in accordance with the words he will use but definitely he is right. i just realize that many filipinos are working abroad and settle down there..why not go back to the phils? i think the writer is really a good man. why did he wrote that essay? to let filipinos know that WE should love our country. thanks for posting this.
Read more discussion :
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)